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Full Moon in Libra

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This months FULL MOON is in Libra, and it’s occuring during Aries season at 1.11pm in Australia, so its intense manifestation energy 🔥

What do you want to attract?
What do you want to experience?
What do you want to create?

The theme this FULL MOON is BALANCE

According to the star gazers it’s considered to be the annual RELATIONSHIP AUDIT, to re-evaluate our personal boundaries and compromises.

Asking us …

Does something feel out of balance?
Where am I over-compromising?
What truth am I avoiding, and why?
How am I maintaining the balance at the cost of my own needs, and why?

To illuminate the imbalance so we can make the necessary adjustments for a more balanced life.

Balancing our personal needs (Aries Sun) with the needs of other (Libra Moon) to create harmony.

The ME (self) versus the WE (other) dynamics

This months FULL MOON has been inviting me to respond differently, but my reactions have been the same, and that’s been enlightening in itself.

Sharing my deeper truths, and openly expressing my challenges, concerns and curiosities have often triggered shifts I don’t always want or like.

… but that doesnt make it wrong ☝️🤨

Why does our truth challenge others ?

🌀️ it exposes uncomfortable realities
🌀️ it disrupts the comfort loops
🌀️ it challenges deeper insecurities
🌀️ it threatens the ego’s sense of control

Why should we share our truth ?

✨️ Honesty is self respecting, not people pleasing
✨️ Protecting our inner peace reduces conflict
✨️ Authenticity builds integrity, and empowers us
✨️ Attracts genuine connections with others

This months FULL MOON I’m releasing what I’ve already outgrown, but conflicting thoughts have still triggered an emotional reaction. Forcing me to confront uncomfortable inconsistencies between who I was, who I am, and who I want to be.

“The past, present, and future collide in the NOW, when memory (our past) and anticipation (the future) define the current self, creating a dynamic, and continuously evolving identity. Suggesting that we exist across time, with all moments equally real and constantly influencing each other.”

Time is an illusion and reality is subjective ☝️🤨

As they say “change is inevitable, but growth is optional,” because we often seek comfort within a lie, but the illusions of truth eventually crumble, and those kinda shifts will challenge us to change.

Then the discomforts of change and growth will start to trigger our self sabotaging behaviours …

🌀 Comfort loops (familiar patterns)
🌀 Fear of the unknown (uncertainty)
🌀 Fear of success or failure (visibility)
🌀 Identity protection (our sense of self)

Those subconscious defence mechanisms are usually the root cause and the source of our …

✨️ All or nothing thinking (cognitive distortion)
✨️ Procrastination (avoiding discomfort)
✨️ Perfectionism (unrealistic standards)
✨️ Conflict (initiation of drama or chaos)

How do we overcome the discomfort ?

We don’t … we just learn how to become more comfortable with it, and it takes ALOT of practice.

The discomforts of our growth triggers reactions within ourselves, and reflections from others, so pay attention to what you are seeing and feeling.

Every reflection serves a purpose🪞👀

Acknowledge that discomfort is a sign of growth, and break free from comfort loops and habitual cycles by shifting the focus of your attention from self criticism to curiosity and self compassion.

During challenging times of change it’s important to avoid overwhelming the nervous system, by accepting that the feeling of safety is temporary.

Again, this is easier in theory than practice, and its a lesson I’ve learned the hard way (as always), but suffering the consequences of my own choices is how I learn the most. When I fail or loose, then I’m learning important lessons, and that kind of thinking is the bonus of cultivating a GROWTH mindset☝️🤨

Life is an ongoing lesson and we are both the student and the teacher, but we often forget to pay attention to the lessons until they are repeated, the hardest lessons are usually the ones we need to teach ourselves, we often fail to apply the wisdom we’ve gained to our daily lives, we are often too busy acting as teacher to realize we have so much more to learn, and we aren’t always good students.

So, as I recognize past patterns, and apply those lessons to new situations, I’m making a conscious choice to act differently, so better outcomes can be experienced. This process shifts me from repeating the same mistakes, to another path of NEW learning because I’ve integrated the lesson.

BOOM 💥

What’s coming into alignment for YOU ?

The influence of a NEW MOON in Pisces before the EQUINOX

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We’ve just experienced the final NEW MOON of the astrological year (18th March) before yesterday’s EQUINOX (20th March), and Mercury is now out of retrograde … but what does this mean?

Planetary energies have been a little intense, shifting us from a state of confusion to clarity, and transitioning through our conflicting feelings has been challenging us to stay present, because holding opposing emotional states simultaneously causes mental tension, and makes us feel exhausted.

In psychology we call this COGNITIVE DISSONANCE.

This internal conflict triggers the ego (our sense of self) because the contradiction forces us to confront an inconsistency that feels threatening, but accepting the complexity of contradiction is a natural part of our humanity.

YES, we can feel both despair & hope, love & hate, sorrow & joy simultaneously because it’s two sides of the same coin, but learning how to accept the paradox without judgement is our biggest challenge.

Many of us are swinging between the darkness and light because the world is being thrown into a familiar “pandemic” story, and the threat of a crisis during a time of war is triggering the masses again, but we are moving beyond the trigger.

Are YOU feeling anxious because of global uncertainty?

  • Limit media exposure because this feeds anxiety
  • Reading the news activates less fear than watching video footage
  • Focus on what you can control and change
  • Prioritize self care to regulate your nervous system

What is the significance of an EQUINOX?

There are only two times of the year when the Earth’s axis is tilted neither toward, nor away from the sun, resulting in 12 hours of daylight and darkness in both the southern and the northern hemispheres. The equinox is a rare, fleeting moment of equilibrium in a world that is always tilting, and it reminds us that true balance involves constant, small adjustments to maintain stability, as we manage shifts in energy.

To feel balanced we need to embrace duality

The NEW MOON in Pisces invited us into the depths, so we could experience the balance of opposing forces within, and what that means for us will depend upon the stories we are telling ourselves.

  • Are you feeling the push and the pull?
  • Do you feel the urge to pursue, but need to be still?
  • Do you want to fight for what you believe in, but need to protect your peace?

Integrating the polarity is shifting from either/or thinking to a both/and mindset, by recognizing that interdependent pairs (poles) must be balanced over time, and not chosen between. Acknowledging that opposing forces are necessary for wholistic functioning is a well known Chinese concept.

The Yin and Yang perspective argues that true balance isn’t found in eliminating the tension of polarity, but integrating these complementary opposites to create a functional whole.

According to star gazers, the emotional depths of Pisces offered us an opportunity to release old patterns, heal old wounds, and set intentions based on our intuitive guidance, but sometimes it can feel like we’re going around and around in circles … but it’s all a matter of perspective.

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Healing resembles a spiral because we often return to old emotional ground with more insight, but unlearning our fear driven habits requires constant effort, and that’s why healing is a daily practice, and an ongoing process.

Truth is, most of our struggle is an internal experience, and we all get stuck in mental loops and repetitive cycles that don’t serve us because “the ego maintains these cycles by ruminating over past events (trauma re-enactment) or obsessing over future uncertainties to protect its fixed sense of identity.” 

The ego will always prioritize a sense of control, familiar patterns and self preservation over growth or peace.

That’s the patriarchal world we’ve been conditioned in, and it’s the crisis driven world we are currently living in, but the rise of the matriarch (divine feminine) is shaking things up … and she’s ON PURPOSE !!

This isn’t just about women because the sacred masculine and the divine feminine energies are the universal forces within us all, regardless of our gender

The brain has been hard wired for survival, and the ego clings to familiar patterns and cycles because it needs to protect our self image (to be right, strong, smart and successful), but this state of mind creates separation, inner conflict and resistance because it defends, blames, and rationalizes.

Our challenge is to acknowledge this inner struggle within us.

So, if YOU are feeling stuck in a mental loop (or) you find yourself repeating the same experiences because you’re not learning the lessons, then ask yourself …

  • What story am I telling myself?
  • Why do I believe this?
  • What has been triggering me IN?
  • What has been revealed and realized?
  • What am I learning from this?

For me, it’s been the same old conflict of holding on and letting, and an upsetting story about my value and worth, but each time I return to this story (whether it be in the past, present or future tense) something else is revealed. Every time I revisit the same emotional theme, I see it from a higher vantage point or with deeper awareness.

I’m learning how to live within the question …

To have patience with unresolved issues, and allow them to co-exist rather than seeking a resolution, but as I move between the stress of holding on and the peace of letting go, I’m also learning how to flow between both states of mind with less resistance, and I notice how strong emotion activates the mental loops of my negative thought patterns. Without my usual avoiding behaviours, it’s been taking me even deeper, and I notice how the survival state of mind activates the fight and flight response in my body, which releases those stress hormones that create feelings of anxiety, fear and sadness.

As I sit with those feelings, I notice the stories emerging, and I’ve been paying attention to the conversations because they’ve been giving me insight into my inner struggle. Acknowledging how traumatic experiences, significant loss, and life changing events have been challenging me to rewire my nervous system.

… but why?

Unconscious psychological and emotional trauma roots itself into the collective as a shared human experience, and it stems from our individual challenges of loss, and historical systemic ruptures, that shape our self worth. The trauma may be acute, chronic, complex or collective, and the story may be differ (neglect, abuse, domestic violence, assault, bullying, rejection, abandonment, betrayal, accident, stress, distress, slavery, genocide, racism, natural disaster, loss or separation to name a few), but the struggle is the same, and it has a lasting impact on the nervous system.

For me, the trauma is complex …

That’s why writing and sharing my story has been an important part of my healing process, but the vulnerability of my sensitivities, traumas, and desires have created a power imbalance.

In my solitude, I’m learning how to feel safe and secure …

  • Creating a safe environment and learning healthier ways to regulate my emotions
  • Processing memories and grieving the losses associated with the trauma
  • Rebuilding a new sense of self and restoring trust in others
  • Finding deeper meaning and higher purpose for my life

In my solitude, I’m also learning about the pattern …

How I still feel the need to reconnect and reconcile, and I’m conscious of how I’ve unconsciously RE-ENACTED the same experience over and over again with the same ending.

According to Shamanic theory …

  • Whoever comes … is the right person
  • Whenever it starts … is the right time
  • Wherever it happens … is the right place
  • Whatever happens … is the only thing that could have happened
  • When its over … it’s finished

There are NO wrong paths in life because everything happens as it should, so the shudda, cudda, wudda thinking is pointless.

“Nature chooses problem-solving over pleasure to keep us alive, making “peace” something that we must be actively be managing rather than a natural default state.” 

To break the mental loop of your unhelpful thoughts …

  • Be fully present in the moment … stop avoiding your SELF
  • Reconnect with your truth … we have to feel it to heal it
  • Label the unhelpful thought … and acknowledge it’s presence
  • Practice mindfulness … BE present by focusing on your senses
  • Self compassion … suspend judgement and be kind to yourself
  • Radical acceptance … stop fighting the reality of what IS
  • Move your body … to disrupt the mental loop

Most importantly know your worth and value yourself

RECLAIM the narrative and own your story ✨✍️

The season of letting go …

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We’ve shifted into the Autumn months in the southern hemisphere, and the tree’s are about to show us how beautiful it can be to let go.

Autumn makes me feel grounded because it’s a sensory experience

A visual transformation in nature that creates a tapestry of colour, and I love the warm earthly tones of red, orange, yellow, brown and gold. The sound of rustling leaves dance with the wind, and they crunch under foot, creating a musky aroma of decaying leaves in the air, and nothing beats sitting around a fire on a cool evening. The romance of watching the sky changing colour as the sun sets, and the moon rises. Contemplating the cosmos under a blanket of stars makes us feel part of something Greater, and that feeling invites us to reflect upon the deeper meaning, and higher purpose of our life.

Autumn is a deeply grounding season because the sensory experience helps to regulate our nervous system, shifting us into a more relaxed “rest-and-digest” mode, that promotes a more present-focused, and calm state of mind, but it also teaches us how to let go. Like the trees, we need to release what no longer serves us, to conserve energy during the winter months, in preparation for new growth in spring. Learning how to flow with the seasons is how we learn to embrace the natural ebbs and flow of life, so we can be less resistive, and more accepting of change, but this process will challenge us to be more present.

By tuning into our senses, it turns the gaze inwards

To identify the patterns triggering our limiting beliefs, so we can break free from what’s holding us back. To process our e-motions, forgive, and heal any lingering hurts, so we can let go of what no longer serves us. To adopt a growth mindset, by reframing our past mis-takes and redefining our identity, so we can align with our core values. We align with our core values by identifying what guides our behaviour and motivates our choices, acknowledging what drains and nourishes us, and determining what we prioritize and why. We have many core values, but some will be on top of the list, and compromising them is a slippery slope of consequences we will learn valuable lessons from.

Experience is how we become an active participant in our own life

Having the courage to be vulnerable enough to make mistakes is a foundational element of our personal growth. According to Dr. Brene Brown. “Vulnerability is defined as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure – it is not a sign of weakness, but rather the most accurate measure of our courage. By letting go of the pressure to be perfect, individuals and leaders can create stronger, more trusting, and more collaborative environments.”

Therefore, embracing failure allows us to use the obstacles as stepping stones, cultivate a growth mindset, develop new perspectives, break cycles, change patterns, and perceive our challenges as opportunities for new growth.

Embracing this growth cycle transforms the past into wisdom, rather than the weight of our burdens and regrets we carry

Although failure is a natural part of our personal growth we still struggle when things don’t go right, but why do we believe something is wrong if it fails? Why do we believe we’ve lost something when it changes form?

  • What if we are learning the most when we fail?
  • What if we are growing the most from our losses?

Failure and loss act as a catalyst for change and transformation, but it will trigger a story, and the narrative will differ depending on how we’ve failed, what we’ve lost, and who we are. Those stories are easily shaped, altered, or reinterpreted over time, and as authors of our own stories we are able to redefine ourselves, and rewrite the narrative as often as we need to.

What story has been playing out for you?

“Men may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.” (Candace Bushnell) is a quote that comes to mind because for me, the end of a significant relationship has been challenging me to change. Refining my internal locus of control, and acknowledging external limitations to maintain a more balanced state of mind.

“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.” (The Serenity Prayer)

Although it’s a deeply personal experience, it’s also part of the collective story.

The threat of another war makes us all feel anxious, and it’s his-story repeating itself, but another story is being written and shared by women. Her-story is an internal battle she’s been fighting with the ego on her spiritual path, so she can understand the illusion of control, and surrender to a higher power.

A Shero’s call OUT to adventure, and her calls IN to do the shadow work

“The world will be saved by the Western women.” (Dalai Lama)

His Holiness said this in 2009 at the Vancouver Peace Summit because the threat of war has been an ongoing concern. Chemical warfare threw the world into chaos in 2020, and the political bullshit continues to agitate the masses by creating a divide, but we’re healing the split, and the game is changing.

Social revolution demands people wake up, shout out, and stand up for what they believe in. Systemic change requires active, courageous, and vocal participation rather than inactive resistance. Passive compliance, tolerance or silent acceptance avoids conflict … but it prevents change.

Can YOU feel the call urging us to move beyond comfortable conformity, to challenge authority, and demand justice? Western women have been fighting for our privileges for centuries, and we now have the means to inform and influence change … but our willingness to speak the truth triggers a reaction.

Our presence has always challenged the ego’s sense of control, and women are still being told we are too sensitive, and over-reactive to the bullshit we are being served. The patriarchy loves to project our reactions to disrespect, punish our intolerance of injustice, and pathologize our defiance, but we are becoming more conscious of the patterns … and we are healing deeper wounds.

Women are the greatest threat to an ego, and the patriarchy because our heart seeks authentic connection, and harmony, but it demands vulnerability, and that’s our strength. The witchy woo woo women are no longer being burnt at the stake … but we are burning for love in so many ways.

… and still we rise 🔥

Ladies and Gentle-men, by turning our gaze inwards we reclaim our sovereignty, and become an active participant in a spiritual revolution.

The Divine Feminine and the Sacred Masculine can align within us ALL, regardless of our gender, and this internal integration is a path to wholeness. When these energies are balanced within us, we embody “goddess wisdom” – a blend of intuition, creativity, and love, while using the masculine aspects of structure, protection, and purpose to ground that wisdom in the physical world.

Becoming an embodiment of our spiritual essence is our destiny …

... but our fate will be determined by the choices we make 💫

How can YOU align with the season of Autumn and LET GO?

Our thoughts shape our reality

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Inspiration to write is found everywhere, and this morning it was a post I read and shared on the book of face, because I related to what he wrote. I haven’t written in a diary for years either, because I’ve been using the book of face (or) my blog to openly share my thoughts and feelings too … but why?

For some, social media is a platform to share funny memes, family photos, and exciting adventures, but it can also become a stage to play out the fantasy, the illusion or the lie. It’s a space to share our personal experiences, have conversations, exchange creative ideas, express political views, share information, learn new things, and connect with each other, but it can also become a court room to justify our actions, plead our case, and vent our opinions to a jury of spectators, so they can deliver their final judgement with a push of a button. We all know the anticipation of a like that makes us feel seen, a love that makes us feel understood, and a care that makes us feel like someone gives a fuck. Those buttons are designed to trigger positive reinforcement by giving us a boost of dopamine, as the reward of social acceptance, and the instant gratification of accomplishment (or) it stirs a negative emotional response that triggers our anxious and competitive behaviours, that’s rooted in the addiction for external validation because we feel rejected by our tribe.

Human behaviour is absolutely fascinating … my own included !!

Social media can be all of the above, but we get to decide who we are, what we follow, and how we share. I don’t share my truth and talk about my life for attention, but my ego definitely responds to the triggers of those buttons. I share my truth because I am here to live my life as honestly as I can.

For me, journaling has become more than a book to dump my messy thoughts and unexpressed feelings, it’s an important part of my healing process, and that’s why I share. As an extrovert, who is open to experience, I often feel called to share the conflicts of my concerns, and the experiences that are challenging me to change because there is no shame in the struggle.

I know I am the healer in my own life, but first I usually need to suffer the consequences of my own choices, before I can share the magick of my own medicine with others.

Letting go of the guilt trips, the blame games and the shame stories is how we heal, but we are creatures of habit, and we fight to hold on, even if it’s making us bleed. I’ve been called OUT to experience the chaos of conflicting truths, and leaning IN to explore the tensions of my own resistance for years, to understand the struggles, and I’ve been learning plenty of hard lessons along the way.

As a witchy woo woo woman, I consider words to be my craft, and I often write to make sense of a world that doesn’t always make sense to me. To find meaning in what’s challenging me to change, so I can feel a sense of purpose in this crazy wonderful journey that is my life. Sometimes the written word can be like the weaving of a spell, as I challenge my thoughts, to break free from the limitations of my conditioned mind. Provoking and evoking emotion, to expose my deeper truth, so I can explore the possibilities and manifest new experiences, that will shape my reality in the future.

We are the creator of our own life and the narrator of our own story

Although we cannot control every experience that happens to us, we do have control over how we understand and respond to it. This perception shifts us out of a victim mentality, based on our need to survive, into an empowered growth mindset, so we can learn, heal and grow from the experience. That’s how we become an active participant in our own life, rather than a passive observer. As the narrator of our own story we can edit and rewrite the script as often as we want, and we are the one to decide who plays the significant roles in our lives.

Truth is, everyone of us struggles with our mental health, especially during challenging times of change, and that’s why our conversations matter. When I look back on my life, I could easily get caught up in the old stories I’ve outgrown, but I don’t believe everything I think. However, that doesn’t stop those thoughts from rising, and becoming conscious of this split in our thinking is how we become the bridge. We integrate the survival and growth mindset to become whole, so we can be a fuller expression of SELF.

Most of us believe we are being ourselves, but when we deny, defend, avoid, reject and project what’s perceived to be negative, it creates the shadow, which is all those unaccepted and unlovable parts of who we are are. To heal, we must learn how to accept and love ALL of who we are, shining a light on our shady behaviours. Holding ourselves accountable, and taking full responsibility for our experience inspires others to learn, heal, and grow from their challenges.

Imagine living in a world of evolving people, who are loving and accepting of each other because they are healing themselves, and therefore relating as their higher selves, instead of reacting to each others triggers.

What if that is possible for each and every one of us?

When we align our thoughts with our highest potential, then we can turn the vision of our dreams into reality

Language has a power …

To unite (or) separate, to protect (or) defend, to create (or) destroy.

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This image popped up in my Facebook newsfeed this morning from Spiritual Revelations, and it reflects the split in our thinking perfectly. How the ego wants to control the narrative, but the consciousness wants to understand our experiences. My words are always written with the intention to understand because I am passionately curious about the human experience, but my willingness to speak the truth, challenge reality, and question what is can often trigger a reaction in others. However, this isn’t wrong, negative or bad because the activation of a strong emotional response is an inevitable part of our human interaction, and our biggest opportunity for deeper reflection and growth.

Like it or not, the triggers of our mirrors and reflections are part of the human experience. Guiding us IN so we can resolve past experiences, and therefore they are a catalyst for our learning, healing, and growth.

To grow we must be willing to challenge our thinking, our limited beliefs and our assumptions, by questioning ourselves …

What story am I telling myself ?

Why do I believe that, and is it serving me?

What triggers me, and what is it revealing?

How can I learn and grow from this?

Do my choices align with my values?

Will this choice move me forward or keep me stuck?

Asking ourselves the right question interrupts the rumination of thought that makes us feel anxious, empowering us to deepen our self awareness so we can live a more conscious life.

I believe that’s the true source of our SPIRITUAL ENLIGHTENMENT ✨️

Detaching from an intimate connection when the relationship ends …

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Falling in love creates a bond of attachment, but it’s not always secure, and the detachment can challenge us. When we disconnect from someone we love, there’s a sudden change that creates physical distance, but detaching is a gradual mental & emotional release.

If we don’t emotionally detach from a partner from the past (or) a challenging experience, then it creates baggage we carry forward into the future. Manifesting into unresolved trauma that creates drama, and unrealistic expectations that creates conflict. Becoming conscious of that is part of the release, and that’s my understanding of letting go so we can heal and grow.

Detaching from the influence of others physically, mentally, emotionally, and energetically is critical for our healing, especially when we are recovering from a traumatic experience, toxic dynamics, and the intensity of emotionally over investing in something or someone. Those are the experiences I’ve been learning and healing from.

Setting boundaries is essential to protect our energy and regain personal equilibrium, but being on the receiving end of those who need space and distance from us, naturally triggers a reaction. It’s those reactions that I’m most curious about because I understand that triggers are messages, that helps us to discover where we still need to learn, heal and grow.

This is what boundaries can look like …

  • Limiting contact and communication to reduce the triggers while we’re healing, so we can regain a sense of self
  • Observing how we react when we are triggered, so we can practise how to respond more consciously
  • Focusing on what we can control by taking accountability, and full responsibility for our experience
  • Accepting others as they are without needing to change them
  • Focusing on the present moment, by interrupting the rumination of thought about the past or future
  • Processing our feelings without judgement

Maintaining boundaries can be the most loving thing we can do, not just for ourselves, but for each other because it creates the space we need to learn, heal and grow from the challenges of our own personal experiences.

Becoming conscious of this has shifted me into the action stage of change 🌀

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I chose this model of change from google on a site called Expert Program Management, written by Denis G, because I like how it reflects change as the process I believe it to be. How we are still learning during the relapse, because whether we are recovering from an addiction (or) healing from a challenging experience, regression is an important part of our healing journey.

When we are exploring a NEW way of being, then we are experimenting with who we are. Part of the learning is becoming more comfortable with failure, which is a part of our success, because we learn from our openness to experience and explore other way, and some ways won’t work for us.

So, don’t fall into the trap of berating or belittling yourself whenever you feel like you’ve failed or are fucking up, because you may be learning something valuable, that you are ready to learn. It’s easy to get caught up in the judgements, and we are usually our own biggest critic, I know I am, but I’m learning how to be gentle with myself, and feel more compassion for the struggle.

For me, that’s the true source of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE