How to live the dream …


We all have hopes and dreams

Many of us even cast our wishes out to the universe, but often become disheartened when those wishes don’t come true. Creating our dreams involves much more than casting out a wish. But manifesting our hearts desire is a process we can all learn

What if I told you that you have the ability to create the life you imagine

What if I told you that you have the ability to live your dreams


I believe this to be true … yet there are still times when I allow sudden changes in direction to knock me off balance. Times when I need to fall down because there is something to be found down there. Times when I need to fail because there is an important lesson to be learned. Times when I need to lose something because its time to let it go. Times when I need to change because I want to grow

Sometimes the change of direction just doesn’t make any sense to us, but in time it does. Knowing this doesn’t make it any easier to adjust to those sudden changes, but in time it does. The more we seek to understand the reason for change, the easier it is to flow with it. With our new understandings our automatic response and way of being also changes … which has created a new habit

… but it’s a process and it takes time


Theres a sense of magic that motivates us to make a wish. As a young child I always believed in magic. I enjoyed watching fantasy movies about fairies, witches, werewolves, dragons and vampires (I still do) because I love how they take me to a familiar place where my imagination carries me away into other worlds where anything and everything is possible

As a grown woman I still believe in magic, but I believe that the magic exists inside of us all. I believe our energy flows with the universe and that’s how we are able to create the experiences we want and need in life


Whenever I doubt my ability to manifest my dreams I remind myself about some of the experiences I have already brought forward into reality

For example … I wanted to learn more about the lived and working experiences in Nursing Homes and with that intention my path began to unfold …

I was working in Aged Care as a carer when I decided that I wanted to have more influence in how older people were cared for. I was soon presented with an opportunity to do an Enrolled Nurse scholarship …

… it was the first scholarship offered by our organization

I was working in Aged Care as an EEN when I decided that I wanted to understand the behaviours of those I cared for. I was soon presented with an opportunity to do a Psychology undergraduate degree  …

… I was part of the first group to do this degree at that university

I was studying psychology when I decided that I wanted to expand upon my clinical knowledge and objective truths because I wanted to learn more about subjective realities. I was soon presented with an opportunity to do a Counselling postgraduate degree …

… I was part of the first group to do this degree at that university

I was studying counselling when I decided that I wanted to know how to better support older adults in Nursing homes so I wanted to know what they needed. I asked if I could volunteer my time to do Group therapy sessions  …

… it was the first time it had been done  in that facility

A coincidence ? .. Fate ? .. or did my intentions manifest the opportunities ?

 trail blazers

Those of us with a hunger for experiences

Those of us with a thirst for knowledge

Those of us who continue to question what is

Those of us who challenge the norms

Those of us with a desire to do more

We are the trail blazers …

… and the universe wants us to dream big because that’s how we evolve. Its how we reach our full potential and that’s how our world changes


The first step in manifesting our hearts desire is to WRITE IT DOWN !!!

The writing process helps to identify what we think and how we feel. Writing helps to  clarify what we want and it directs our goal planning. Writing helps us to be clear about our intentions, which energizes the manifestation process


 Be CREATIVE and don’t hold back on your creative expression because that’s how we tap into our passion, which motivates and inspires us. When we believe in what we want so much, then it has no choice but to materialize

But what if you believe in your dream and yourself but it still isn’t manifesting ?


Sometimes the door isn’t what we expected it to be

Sometimes the door opening up to new possibilities is our own mind

Sometimes the door isn’t what others can do for us but what we can do for ourselves

We often believe that something external to ourselves is blocking us, when the truth is WE are often the obstacle because of how we think, feel and respond to the challenges or conflicts we confront


Obstacles  do not block the path because they ARE the path

Obstacles are put in our way to challenge us, to test us, to see how much we want the dream

Obstacles do not stop us because they are the stepping stones towards success


When it comes to manifesting our dreams we WILL confront many obstacles and the most challenging is ourselves. The biggest mistake we often make when manifesting our dreams, is not doing the inner work needed to clear out any blockages that may be preventing us from creating the dream

So … what internal experiences could be blocking the manifestation process ?

Our IMPATIENCE  and  EXPECTATIONS of when and how it happens can often be our biggest obstacle. It can become a little frustrating when we feel like our dreams are taking forever to manifest

 But be assured that when our mind and heart is set for creating something new and we follow that intention with love and passion …

… then it WILL manifest in its own time


Our THOUGHTS and BELIEF that once we create our dream that it will take away the uncomfortable feeling of not having it can be another obstacle we may confront. We experience this whenever we want something we believe we do not already have. So learning to be OK if our dreams do not manifest allows us to let go of having it, which activates a higher level of consciousness … this is a GIFT


Our EGO can often pull us off the path by questioning and doubting ourselves. During our wait we may experience feelings of disappointment, fear, anger and envy when what we want doesn’t happen when and how we expect it to

That is when our gift becomes our GUIDE towards living the life of our dreams

We begin to manifest our dreams easier by getting out of our own way

When we believe that whatever we have set our heart and mind to already exists and that it’s already here. We begin to LIVE the dream


Dream it .. Imagine it .. Believe it .. Action it .. Create it .. Live it



Why do we dream ?

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Have you ever wondered WHY we dream ?

I believe … our dreams are gifts given to us by something far greater than us

I believe … our dreams are previews into a future we are here to create

I believe … the universe conspires to breathe life into our dreams

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But it wasnt so long ago that I was feeling stuck and it seemed like some of my dreams were not going to come to life. So, I reflected over the process to determine where I was holding myself back and to identify how I was standing in my own way

Did you DREAM it ? … then its YOURS to create

Can you IMAGINE it ? … then YOU have the vision to create

Do you BELIEVE it ? … then YOUR mind has accepted it as your truth to create

Are you ACTIONING it ? … then YOUR energy provides the motivation to create

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Asking myself those questions, I determined that I didn’t believe in myself, which was blocking the energy needed to create my dreams. Life was challenging me and so my fears and doubts increased. While I was healing a hurting heart I allowed myself to be influenced by the opinions of others. I became overwhelmed by negativity, criticism, doubt, mockery and misunderstanding. I began to think that my dreams were something I was unable to achieve. I was feeling defeated

 How could I breathe life into my dreams when life had left me breathless ?

How could I believe in myself when others doubted me ?

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Perhaps that was my lesson ? Maybe life was challenging me as a way to bring me to my own attention ? Was it possible to learn and grow if my heart had not been broken wide open ?  What if things needed to fall apart so I could rebuild myself ?


I believe … when we start to trust the process of change, our experience changes

I believe … our failure is just as important as our success

I believe … we learn most from our challenges and conflicts

I believe … our growth is only possible when we follow our heart

passionate heart

My heart has led me down some challenging paths. Sometimes the road has been bumpy and I’ve learned some very hard lessons through some very hurtful experiences, but those lessons have served me well. Because following my heart leads me closer towards my truth, which has always been and always will be essential to my own change and growth

I LIVE as passionately as I LOVE and that is my purpose

passion and purpose

I want to inspire, encourage and support others to follow their DREAMS

I want to inspire, encourage and support others to IMAGINE how life could be

I want to inspire, encourage and support others to BELIEVE in themselves

I want to inspire, encourage and support others to take ACTION towards living and loving life for all it can be

I want to inspire, encourage and support others to CREATE a life with more love and less fear


Our dreams sometimes manifest in ways we don’t understand, but by asking these questions we can usually determine where we are blocking ourselves

Are we being clear about what we do and do not want ?

Do we have any thoughts, beliefs, emotions or energy blockages that need to be acknowledged and released ?

Are we resisting the necessary changes that are essential to allow our dreams to be manifested ?

honour your process

Honour your own process of change and growth and be gentle with yourself


and NEVER give up on YOUR dreams

Exploring how our definitions and expectations can cause resistance


Our understanding of something will generally relate to how we DEFINE it, because our definitions attach meaning that helps us to make sense of something

 How we define something will influence how we THINK about it …

… and how we think about it will impact on how we EXPERIENCE it

After my recent conversations about the conflict and challenges I’ve been experiencing in my life, I decided to look a little deeper into the possibility that my feelings of being stuck could be related to my own resistance

So, I slipped into my Dora the Explorer shoes and explored my own definitions …


As I looked at some of my own understandings and experiences, I realized that perhaps it was my expectations that were causing some resistance and keeping me stuck ?


 Expectations are like our fears, we ALL have them, but they often lie just beneath the surface, influencing our automatic responses. If we mindlessly move through our days, we are often oblivious to the impact they are having on our everyday choices and experiences. So, lets look at our expectations …

Have you ever attended a show and been disappointed by the performance ?

Have you ever been rejected for a job you were sure you would get ?

Have you ever hoped for more and received less ?

Have you ever had a plan of action that failed ?

Have you ever imagined a future with someone you loved but lost them ?

Have you ever fallen in love but had to let them go ?


It’s a natural response to be disappointed or hurt when things don’t go to plan … but is it a realistic expectation to move through life without having any expectations ?

We may avoid disappointment and hurt if we don’t expect anything … but can we achieve great things without raising the level of our expectations ?

Not everyone will live up to our expectations … but if we don’t expect to be treated with respect will we be respected ?

How can we achieve our wildest dreams if we don’t expect them to come true ?

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I can see how our expectations can prevent us from accepting and appreciating WHAT IS … but it’s not so easy to accept the unexpected or be prepared to accept those things that hurt or disappoint us

“Grant me the serenity to ACCEPT the things I cannot change. COURAGE to change the things I can. WISDOM to know the difference” (Serenity pray)

We are not always going to get it right. Ultimately, we are going to suffer consequences of any choice we make. Our expectations will change as we do. Change and growth is therefore an ongoing learning process

expect growth

As a woman I have very high expectations of myself and I’m my own biggest critic, but I’m learning how to become my own best friend and biggest supporter, instead of beating myself up with the critic stick whenever things go wrong or change direction … it’s a process

As a single woman I’ve often compared my experiences of love to those who appear to be in satisfying relationships, with an expectation that true love lasts forever, but I’m learning that not everyone grows in love together … it’s a process

As a divorced mother I often allow myself to be influenced by how others understand and experience motherhood, instead of trusting the flow of my own change and growth. I’ve carried my mothers guilt as a form of self punishment for not living up to mine or others expectations, which is a mighty heavy burden to carry, but I’m learning how to be more gentle with myself as I change and grow … it’s a process

As a nurse with a dream of improving lived experiences and empowering the elderly in Nursing Homes, I continue to confront obstacles and challenges that cause me discomfort, but I’m learning how to become part of the solution instead of being consumed by the problem … it’s a process


Everything happens for a reason …

… even our disappointments, failures, rejections, heart breaks and losses ALL serve a very important purpose in our life experience and our souls quest for growth

WHAT IF our lives don’t turn out the way we had hoped because life has MORE to teach and offer us ?

 I believe our plans constantly change because WE DO

Follow your HEART

and so the journey of LOVE continues …