LISTEN to your instincts


Do you trust your instincts ? Do you know how your instincts communicate with you ? Do you know what purpose your instincts serve ?

My heart leads me towards lessons in love and my mind continues to question & challenge reality BUT my guts have always guided me towards a sense of knowing .. I believe our instincts are the compass that keeps us safe, by steering us in the right direction ..and I believe our instincts to be our greatest truth .. I feel my instincts in the tummy (gut instincts as they say) .. it feels like a nagging discomfort that wont go away until I listen to it .. whenever my truth bubbles in my tummy and I have roared it out load, I immediately feel a sense of relief .. but when our truths are denied or rejected by others we can begin to doubt ourselves and not trust in our instincts.

So… WHY do others deny or reject our truths ? .. and WHY do I sometimes feel challenged by someone elses truth ? .. in my experience those who have challenged or rejected my instincts have done so because it challenged their own truth .. and my reactions to someone elses truth are generally prompts and insights into my own triggers that need to be acknowledged and healed.


Our choices determine our experiences .. and our choices will be either driven by our insticts, our thoughts or our feelings .. whether we listen to our hearts, minds or guts will depend on the experience we seek and the lesson we need .. but WHAT do we do when our choices are made subconsciouisly ? .. and HOW do we recognise that what we needed wasnt neccessarily what we wanted ?

TIME and a desire to take complete responsibility for our experiences, our lives and our growth .. sounds easy enough .. but its a harder habit to cultivate than you think .. especially when we find ourselves confronted with a negative experience, that we truly believe was forced upon us by circumstances that were out of our control .. to think that we may have actually chosen such an experience to learn and grow from, results in a mighty discomfort .. but how we think and respond to our discomforts will determine our lived experience, our relationships, our connections and our own personal growth.


Sometimes our wants, needs, expectations or perspectives do not agree with someone elses .. and thats when conflict is experienced, conflict thats impossible to avoid .. especially the more self aware and mindful we become .. we can only deliver our truth with more love and understanding, as we move more gently through the lives of others .. BUT it is NOT our responsibility how others receive our truths .. whether our interactions are fullfilling a need, satisfying a want, supporting another on their journey or learning valuable lessons .. each experience is an opportunity to learn and grow from.


Listen to YOUR instincts .. Express YOUR truth .. Follow YOUR heart .. and continue to question what YOU think !!!




We each seek a variety of connections for a variety of reasons … whether it be our need to connect with our self, our partner, our lover, our family, our friend, our client, our colleague, our pet, the divine or a stranger … each connection serves an important purpose for both ourselves and the one we connect with.

Sometimes our connections are but a brief moment in time … Sometimes our connections are forced upon us during unforeseen circumstance … Sometimes our connections last only for a season … Sometimes our connections continue over many life times … but when we start to become more aware of the purpose for our connections … we begin to privilege them for what they are … and then gain the most from them.

When it comes to my intimate experiences I love crossing paths with people who take me to places I’ve never been before because it reflects my openess for change, we share new experiences and I gain insights & deeper understandings.

The universe will connect us with those who are attracted to our energies and we will be attracted to others in the same way … some will connect to our body because they are attracted to how we look … some will connect to our mind because they are attracted to how we think … some will connect to our heart because they are attracted to how we love … some will connect to our soul because they are attracted to who we are … and some will connect to us on ALL levels because they are attracted to YOU for ALL of who you are.

To fully appreciate our connection with others we must first honestly identify our own want and need … because the more honest we are with ourselves the more we attract with energies that better satisfy our needs, better fullfill our wants and better serve our growth.


I’ve experienced the shallow gratifications of casual sex … I’ve experienced the intensity of lustful passions … I’ve experienced those wonderful melting sensations of love … but the meeting and merging of 2 consciousness is something very new to me and like any new experience it can be a little unnerving … but it certainly raises some VERY interesting ponderings around what we find attractive and why ? … and who we choose to connect with and why ?

Personal Responsbility


I think its fair to say that we ALL struggle with taking complete responsibility at times. Even those who live a mindful well balanced life require the necessary time and space to be able to respond, instead of react to challenges and conflicts in life. Why do you think the Dali Lama allocates so much of his time to his spiritual practice … to make sure he’s got a grip and has his shit together (wink)

Taking complete responsibility for our own lives IS a habit well worth cultivating … and it will determine whether we have a good life or an AMAZING life !!!

For TOO many years I allowed the opinions of others to influence my experiences because I didn’t completely trust nor believe in myself … so I sought support and followed advice instead of holding myself in the space of discomfort and listening to my own sense of knowing … it then made perfect sense why I was unable to take complete responsibility for my own experiences … SO WHAT CHANGED ? ? ?

MY THINKING !!! … I started to challenge my thoughts and question my beliefs

Before the deconstruction process my mind resembled a fully functional and organized computer system, which helped to make sense of my world. My mind automatically responded to stimulus because of past experiences and understandings, so most of the time I didn’t even need to consciously think … TOO EASY !!!

3439c_1-pcd-diagramBUT … the more new experiences I confronted and the more curiosities I had, the more my mind malfunctioned … I would experience OVER THINKING without actually reaching any conclusions or the entire system would SHUT DOWN … I was desperately trying to make sense of my world because what I thought and believed to be true, suddenly did not match my new sense of reality … and so the deconstruction process of my mind began … and it looked something like this …


But for those of us who are technologically challenged … then it probably looked more like that !!!

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Oh yes !!! … what a mighty fine mess I found myself in (wink) … I had boxes upon boxes of crap to rummage through … I came across memories on top of old dusty shelves … I stumbled over files and folders filled with feelings … I sorted through experiences from times gone by … I was overwhelmed by STUFF and thought to myself  WTF now ? ? ?

WELL … I then proceeded to organize my shit … and it was BRUTAL !!!

I realized how much I was hanging onto and I learned that many of my thoughts and beliefs were out dated … so my mind went through a spring cleaning … what I love most about our experiences, is how our internal processes often manifest themselves externally … because the more my mind started to declutter, so did my living space


SO … if you struggle with a cluttered mind and are resistant to challenge your thinking or are reluctant to start the deconstruction process … then why not start by sorting through the accumulated crap around the house ? ? ?  … I am learning that the more we take personal responsibility for ALL of our experiences … YES, even the negative and crappy moments inflicted by the behavior of others … then ironically the more control we have over our own lives …


Be CONSTRUCTIVE in your thinking … instead of allowing your thoughts to DESTROY you !!!