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What habit do YOU want to change?

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EVERY day is another opportunity to do something better for ourselves

I want to improve my eating habits, but this process applies to any habit

What is my motivation for change?

  • To reduce my sugar and carb cravings – so I can feel better
  • To feel less fatigue, and more energised – so I can live my best creative life
  • To prevent ill health – so I can improve my quality of life

Having studied psychology, and changed many of my habitual behaviours, I know it’s about more than what I eat, that’s why I openly share my process of change with others. Creating new habits is about replacing an existing behaviour with a healthier one, and to change it – first, we need to acknowledge the habitual loop that keeps reinforcing an unhealthy habit.

I keep repeating the sugar craving loop, and to break it I need to manage my blood sugar levels, identify emotional triggers, and build new habits

  • CUE (trigger) – what initiates the behaviour?
  • ROUTINE (action) – what I do in response to the trigger
  • REWARD (positive reinforcement) – how does it make me feel?

For example – in the morning, which is when I mostly write, I wake up thinking “I need a coffee” to stimulate my brain, but it’s just a habit I’ve created. I actually want to do more than stimulate my brain into action, I want to get the energy flowing within me, so I can feel connected to my body – because it has something important to say about experiences I have (past and present).

Like my feet when they tell me to – take your shoes off and ground us, put your feet up to reduce this swelling, wear your shoes when you walk more than 30 minutes or we’ll hurt tomorrow, rub us because we’re aching and the blood needs to flow, wash us because you’ve been walking around barefoot all day.

Our body communicates with us all the time, and learning how to listen is the most important part of healing – because until we connect with our body, we can’t balance the energy, and we won’t align with our higher self.

This morning I intentionally changed my morning routine ..

BEFORE making myself a cup of coffee, I washed my face, and gave myself a quick lymphatic drainage massage while applying bio-oil to my face – because it felt so good, I continued to brush the rest of my body using sweeping strokes, which then prompted me to do a few stretches.

How did this small change in my routine make me feel?

Connected to my body, and so I made another healthy choice – while the kettle was boiling, I drank a glass of water with a squeeze of lemon, splash of cider vinegar, and honey added to it. After drinking it I felt my insides wake up, and within 10 minutes I felt better than I do after that first cup of coffee.

Isn’t it crazy that we don’t do the things we know are good for us.

I still drank a cup of coffee, but I must admit – it didn’t feel as satisfying because I had experienced the (+) reinforcement of a healthier routine.

AFTER drinking my coffee, I felt really good about myself, and I made a bowl of porridge with all the yummy additions (seeds, nuts, my homemade berry chia seed jam, honey, cinnamon and nutmeg), and I felt nurtured and nourished.

Can I maintain that change every morning?

YES I believe I can, but I still love buttery toast, and I’m not going to deny myself when I fancy it – because I’m changing my usual no carbs or sugar approach, to find a sense of moderation.

To make a change we need to have a clear plan …

  • What am I doing?
  • Why am I doing it?
  • How will I do it?

I’m working on changing my morning routine because I know from experience – it will make me feel good, and when I feel good, I make other good choices.

The contradictions of LIFE is the paradox of human experience …

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After standing on top of the metaphoric mountain yesterday, sharing star gazer insights, and tooting out of my own Capricorn horns. Sharing the wisdom of my soul, and the magick of my own medicine – I felt called to write as the Moon became her fullest this morning (9.56am) because I can also be a stupid goat.

My daughter said it best the other day, when my hormonal brain was struggling to string some words together in a logical sentence …

“Mam, you’re either all knowing and wise (or) ditsy as fuck,”

Followed by a soul sister telling me this morning …

“You’re so smart, you’re stupid.”

– and neither of them are wrong 🤣🤣🤣

But how wonderful to be truly seen, and loved deeply for who I really am.

I’ve always openly expressed the real me, and it isn’t always positive, nice, comfortable or beautiful – so many have witnessed the honesty of my imperfect SELF – the embarrassment of my humiliation, the flustering of my flaws, the stress of my internal chaos, the uncertainty of my curiosities, the anxiety of my fear, the frustration of my failure, and the shame of my fuckups.

Ironically, as the mythical Sea Goat – I have climbed many a mountain (both figuratively and literally speaking), but there’s nothing graceful or nimble about me, and even though I willingly dive into the darkest depths of my unconscious mind, I’m actually afraid of the ocean. Too scared to venture any further than knee deep in water (sea, lake or river), because that depth is shallow enough to still run away from anything that wants to drown, sting, bite or eat me.

Does that make me a cosmic mix up?

No, it just makes me human, and that’s why I don’t always make good choices.

Like last night – when I devoured another family block of Cadbury’s and felt like crap (obviously) because I have zero impulse control, and it got me thinking

If I was to pick an actor to play a character in my own story, who would it be?

So, for fun I asked Google A.I …

Which actor is a combination of Yoda and Bridget Jones

“An actor who perfectly balances the traits of Yoda’s ancient, cryptic wisdom with Bridget Jones’s neurotic, chaotic, and highly relatable romantic struggles would be a master of deadpan and emotional nuance. This mashup – an all-knowing sage who can’t stop obsessing over her calorie count, her love life, and whether she’s a “f***ing disaster” – demands a very specific kind of talent.” … so I am a talented woman afterall 🤣

Oliver Colman and Imelda Staunton were some suggestions to consider.

My writing is still a work in progress, but I haven’t lost sight of the vision of my BIG DREAM – to write something that someone will make into a movie, because I’ve already imagined it, and I realize the power of my imagination. Most things I’ve successfully created began as a vision in my mind, before it became a reality in the physical world – to be experienced.

Imagination is everything. It’s the preview of life’s coming attractions.” – Albert Einstein

Like here, now in the cottage – I’ve imagined living this life amongst the trees, and it’s not the first time I’ve experienced it. I created some wonderful memories in a place aptly called – Heaven in the Hills, in a cottage named Gabriel’s rest when covid first broke out, but this time – energetically speaking, as I continue to write my story, it feels like I’ve planted myself here.

– to grow.

Planting ourselves somewhere to grow means – setting deep energetic roots in an environment that nourishes our spirit, and helps us to thrive.

I love it here for so many reasons, and I’m deeply grateful to be renting space from the woman who owns the land – a writer who inspires me, and a woman I hold in high regard – but it isn’t my forever home. Like other places, it called to me, and I’ve created a beautiful home here, but there will come a time in the future, when I’ll feel the call to leave – and I’ll BE somewhere else.

  • Perhaps that knowing helps me to feel less attached?
  • Maybe I don’t hold on anymore because loss has taught me so much?
  • Perhaps that’s how we learn to detach?

Nature reminds us – to grow, we need to be willing to let go of what we’ve outgrown, and that means letting go of things we once wanted, and sometimes what we needed, but nothing stays the same … including ourselves.

Under this FULL MOON I’ve been acknowledging what I’ve outgrown …

The habit (people pleasing to keep others comfortable), the job (working in aged care facilities), the relationship (a repeated pattern of self abandonment), the limiting belief (that my worth depends on something external to me) and the chapter (that compromised my value).

I’ve made some mis-takes over the years, but I’ve achieved so much more …

Most mothers say that our greatest creations are our children, and I agree wholeheartedly because I treasure all (3) of my children, but right or wrong, I wanted to do more than create a family – I’ve built a career, lived in many different houses, and created many beautiful homes. I’ve recreated my SELF many times over, and built a genuine reputation. I’ve created experiences, lived my wildest dreams, built skills, served communities, and found my tribe of trusted friends. I’m constantly building upon my knowledge, developing my character, and I’m creating my own legacy by living intentionally TODAY.

YES – I am devoted to my spiritual path, aligned with my genuine desires, and I’ll continue to climb this mountain (and many more) because I’m here to build a life that feels good for me, fully committed to being the best version of my SELF, and I feel supported to create the life I imagine is possible.

Yesterday, I shared the conversation occurring between Capricorn and Cancer, and after reflecting upon the questions being asked, I acknowledge – my eating habits need to change before Universe slaps me with a wake up call, because my body keeps telling me – I’m struggling to process too many carbs and sugars. Improving my eating habits will create other positive changes – more energy for outdoor activities and less screen time – more energy to create and less thinking about it.

I also acknowledge …

  • My relationship with Nature nurtures and nourishes me the most
  • I feel like home, so it doesn’t matter where I am or who I’m with, but being close to those who matter most to me makes that feeling grow stronger.
  • Being a full expression of my SELF makes me feel emotionally safe
  • Those (3) things support my growth.

YES – I am setting clearer boundaries in my life because experience has taught me – not everyone attracted to my light is good for me, and that’s how my energy is drained. The hormonal fluctuation of my transition from mother to crone (peri-menopause), and my lifestyle choices has a huge impact on my energy, so I’m paying attention, but I still make bad choices because like every other person in the world – I am a flawed human being.

So, this is me saying to YOU – embrace your own authentic journey because we are ALL complex creatures of contradiction, constantly balancing the dualities within us, and it’s not always easy, but it doesn’t make us any less beautiful.

I hope it offers some reassurance to know that you’re not alone in the struggle.

I see YOU ❤️

The spiritual practice of mood lighting

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Why do I have a Christmas tree up in June?

… why not?

Why wait for December to experience the spirit of Christmas?

This Christmas tree has significant meaning to me though -because it was my Mam’s, and she’s now in spirit, so when I moved into the cottage, my daughter returned it to me. I didn’t want to keep it in a box, so I put it up, then I decided to create a bat colony, and perching a crow on the top just made sense.

Although the symbolism of a crow has meaning for me – the Morrigan, mystery, magic, shape shifting, and the ability to see through illusions, I didn’t realize that bats have even more significance, but that’s for another blog.

I have this wonderful tree in the corner of my study, and it brings me great joy to see it lit up. Those who know me best, know how much pleasure I gain from being creative with light, and I love mood lighting, especially during the cold, dark months of winter, but its about more than creating a cozy space to BE.

Mood lighting shifts the chemicals in our brain, creating an intimate and secure environment, that makes us feel deeply relaxed. It softens our perception, reduces anxiety, calms our nervous system, and the gentler tones of colour creates a beautiful experience of Nature within our homes.

The soft glow of a sunrise that brings a sense of hope in our hearts, and the warm embrace of a sunset that triggers our introspective thoughts. Mood lighting also creates shadows that add depth – shifting our perception, and triggering unconscious awareness, to bring things into the light.

Enlightenment is deeper insight and understanding ✨️

Mood lighting is a tool for energy healing, and emotional regulation because adjusting a room’s brightness, warmth, and colour creates a sacred space to centre the mind, deepen meditation, and it promotes relaxation and grounding.

Whether it be a beam from the Sun or an illumination of the Moon, the flickering of a flame or the glow from a warm bulb, the shimmering of the ocean or the twinkle in someone’s eye, the sparkle from a crystal or the shining of a star, the reflection of light or the afterglow of an experience, it’s all sacred.

What lights YOUR spirit up ?

Perspective …

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Every now and then I share a post like this, and it’s usually when I’m gaining a new perspective.

This morning when I got out of bed, I looked in the mirror, and I smiled at the reflection looking back at me. As I write that it makes me think about a client I support with dementia. How she often smiles, has a little giggle, and says “I love you” at the reflection looking back at her, while she’s washing her hands at the bathroom sink. 😍

If only we could all see ourselves in that way, but at times we do. Like me, this morning, but it’s unrealistic and unreasonable to expect to feel that way all the time, because we don’t.

… and that’s OK

Our GREATEST challenge as human beings, is learning how to embrace ALL of who we are, so we can fully experience the present moment, no matter how uncomfortable or unpleasant it is.

Whether it’s how we are seeing ourselves, what we are thinking about another, how we are looking at a challenge we’re struggling with, or what we think the problem is …

Adjusting our focus helps ( ꩜ ᯅ ꩜;) 

✨️️Internal perspective (how I think, feel, and react to an experience)

✨️External perspective (how others are experiencing it)

✨️Objective perspective (unbiased view of a shared experience)

Gaining the helicopter view of objectivity asks us to emotionally detach from an experience, but it’s not easy to remove the intensity of an emotion, especially when we are experiencing any form of pain.

Mind 🤯 Body 🤕 💔 or Spirit 🕳

… but what are those experiences teaching us?

It takes conscious effort, and courage to see the truth of reality in an objective way, without getting lost in the stories we tell ourselves.

That’s why our healing matters ✨️

I take photos at the same time from different angles like that, as a visual reminder – that we can be looking at the same thing, but be seeing something different – because it depends on our point of view, and what we choose to focus on.

Truth is, I am ALL those POV …

✨️Unflattering angle – captures my uglier side that I don’t want others to see.

✨️Realistic angle – captures my honest side that I’m most comfortable with.

✨️Complimentary angle – captures my better side that I prefer others see.

Whenever I’m shifting my point of view from a negative frame of mind, to a higher perspective it creates a shift in my energy that makes me think and feel differently.

… but its a process of change 🌀

When you have an itch … then scratch it.

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YES, I am being immature, but sometimes life can feel too serious, and we benefit from lighting the fuck up.

Statistically, there’s been a significant shift over the last two decades – with more unpartnered people in the world. In my humble opinion, the dating apps have contributed because the design is flawed. More option creates a casual approach to what we refer to as ‘the dating game,’ disrubpting the potential for stability, and exposing more situationships than creating successful matches for long term relationship.

… but that’s a blog for another time.

Women adjust to living alone, and we can be innovative and creative. Most of us have family and friends to fullfill our emotional needs, and some of us have a variety of toys to satisfy our sexual needs. More women are embracing and exploring their sexuality, regardess of their relationship status, but I may have reached another stage of my life.

… or perhaps it’s the men – oh – pause 🤣

Because the tools I use most to scratch an itch, and relieve tension these days have changed form, but lets be honest, it’s just another version of cock n’ balls.

Yup, it tickles my funny bone, but the spaghetti spoon, and balls are amazing tools that serve more than their intended or recommended purpose.

When my feet are in need of a foot rub, I roll my feet over the spiky ball on the floor. It feels fucking fabulous, and it also helps to relieve the plantar fasciitis I get after walking /standing too long.

When I need a massage, I push against the tennis ball on a wall. Like a bear scratching on a tree, it’s a great way to work out the knots and tension.

When my back is itching and I can’t reach it, I use the spaghetti scoop to scratch it. Gotta laugh because I notice the spag scoop even as the eye.

On a serious note, I do enjoy the peace of my solitudinal bliss because I’ve created a beautiful home, and living a wonderful life, but I still feel lonely at times, and I yearn for romance and intimacy, but I’m just not ready. I feel pleasure from so many other things, and life fullfills me, but I don’t judge myself for feeling how I feel.

Whenever those sexual urges do begin to flow, and I’m feeling lonesome, telling myself that I want or need to be in a relationship, I reach for other tools, and the feeling usually passes 🤣

The comfort zone …

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I like this image of the comfort zone by Tom Senninger because it’s a great visual of the process. We ALL feel comfortable sitting on our arse at home, especially in a conflicting world, but “All growth starts at the end of your comfort zone” (Tony Robbins)

For (9) years I lived out of the comfort zone. Like a gypsy, I moved back and forth between the UK and Australia, drifting in and out of other peoples lives, unsure where I belonged.

I learned so much from those experiences, but shifting from drifting (seeking experiences to learn and grow from) to settling back into the comfort zone (embracing stillness) was equally challenging because I’m not the same woman I once was.

  • Routine felt boring
  • Structure felt restrictive
  • Staying still felt stifling
  • Stability felt stagnant
  • Settling felt wrong

Ironically, but not surprisingly the comfort zone didn’t feel comfortable anymore. I was afraid of stepping back into an old version of myself that no longer fit, and I experienced what psychology defines as “a transitional identity crisis.” A realization that helped me to understand some of my struggles.

During those (9) years out of the comfort zone I experienced detachment from those I love most, I lost my parents, and a soul sister to cancer. I fell in love with men who couldn’t fully meet me, and I let them all go, but I never lost love.

Grief and loss challenged me to be in a constant state of transition.

What did I learn?

Living out of the comfort zone builds resilience, but adaptation isn’t always a (+) experience. Adjusting our behaviours, thoughts, and emotions in response to new, uncertain, or unfamiliar situations is essential to thrive, but some environments will trigger us to compromise ourselves, and we will learn and grow the most from those inner conflicts.

There’s a story to be told about why I lost my SELF in someone else’s story, and how I began to reclaim the narrative, but it’s taken time to reconnect with MY truth, regain a sense of balance, realign with my personal values, integrate the lessons, rebuild my own life, redesign the comfort zone, and reframe the return into comfort, as deepening my roots.

Feeling more settled has provided me with a safe space to notice with greater clarity – which habits are truly comforting, what hinders my growth, and when my choices have been self destructive – acknowledging how many times I compromised my needs to prioritize another.

As women, so many of us are guilty of this ☝️🤨

The discomfort of that truth has shifted something within me. My head and heart are finally in alignment, and my soul no longer feels restless … because I am home ✨️

Breaking the habit of seeking a lover …

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According to the Gregorian calendar, winter doesn’t officially begin until June, but Nature tells us when she’s ready to change, and winter has arrived.

Can you feel the shift ?

Seasonal shifts influence our mood and energy because of the weather changes – Less sunshine alters our internal body clock, and regardless of our gender, we ALL feel the effects of shifting hormone levels – Less daylight lowers serotonin and dopamine (destabilizing our moods), and increases melatonin (making us feel like sleeping more).

As a 52 year old perimenopausal woman I’ve been navigating hormonal shifts for a while now, because the “change of life” is a process, and it can take up to 8 fucking years, which is why it’s ALWAYS about the journey.

During the winter months …

Embracing our natural instinct to slow down, and turn inwards can help us to adjust our daily routines, so we can prevent burn out, but we live in a world that keeps demanding more from us. That’s why honoring our need to slow down is a deeply grounding rebellion.

What am I learning on MY hormonal journey?

“Stay away from arseholes,” was my automatic response, and it’s absolutely spot on because we have less tolerance for the bullshit we are often served.

As progesterone and oestrogen fluctuate, our capacity for stress diminishes, and our nervous system becomes hyper sensitive. That’s why women of a certain age stop tolerating disrespectful behaviour, choosing not to engage in the chaos of drama.

As we learn, heal, mature and grow we become more responsive to the intuitive guidance of our gut instincts, instead of feeling torn between the timeless dilemma of our inner conflicts – our head (logic) and the heart (emotional desire). We value our time and energy because we know our worth, and life has become even more precious to us.

This isn’t just a life lesson … it’s a neurological shift.

I’m less resistive to change because my growth game is strong, but spiritual growth demands honesty, and that still challenges me when my consciousness shifts, as I become more self aware of my own patterns of behaviour.

As a single woman with a healthy appetite for life, food and sex, I usually seek the company of a lover, even when I’m not ready to commit to a relationship. I notice how I usually crave the warmth of a lover more during the cooler months, and I feel no shame in admitting that, but my soul wants more than the warmth of a body, and thanks to perimenopause my passion is on a slow burn, so my priorities have shifted.

To anchor my energy, and deepen the spiritual roots that ground me into the present moment.

I’m not seeking a lover because I don’t have an itch that needs scratching, there is no tension that needs relief. I don’t need anything that’s missing from me. I no longer need resolution from others because I don’t need validation, nothing feels inccomplete, and there is no hole in my life that needs filling (interpret that as you will).

I am whole – but I am ALWAYS becoming.

My sexual and creative energy is sacred, and in the past I’ve shared it with others too freely because I am open to love – and I’ve suffered the consequences of my choices – but I have learned

YES … I do desire to be in a relationship with another – to share, to create, to build and to grow together – but I acknowledge that I’m not ready for the imbalance a new relationship brings when two energies and lives merge.

So, I’m focusing on the relationship I have with my SELF – honouring my truth (the good, the bad, and the indifference), acknowledging the patterns of my own behaviour, releasing what I’ve outgrown, and aligning my energy to manifest a deeply fulfilling relationship in the future – with a trustworthy partner because I deserve to be in a healthy relationship with someone who can fully meet me.

This winter I won’t be seeking the warmth of a lover, I’ll be …

♥️Feeling cozy in my sanctuary from the cold
♥️Slowing down to enjoy life’s simple pleasures
♥️Wrapping myself up in soft blankets
♥️Nurturing my ideas and inspirations
♥️Working on my creative projects
♥️Connecting with spirit
♥️Doing some arts and crafts
♥️Enjoying the company of family and friends
♥️Lighting fires under the nights sky
♥️Caring for and supporting others
♥️Creating atmospheric ambience with lighting
♥️Preparing garden beds for Spring
♥️Walking slowly in Nature
♥️Taking more naps with my pussy-cat
♥️Curling up on the couch with a good book
♥️Watching stuff I like on the TV
♥️Losing and finding myself in stories
♥️Cooking and baking wholesome foods
♥️Playing music, singing songs and dancing
♥️Wearing fluffy socks and beautiful scarfs
♥️Soaking in warm bubble baths by candle light
♥️Warming my belly with a nip of whiskey
♥️Indulging my senses and soothing my soul

There’s plenty to LOVE about being single during the winter months✌️😍

Art is our craft in motion …

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The creative process …

I frequently write to make sense of an experience, and sometimes I engage the right side of my brain to express myself with colour, shape, and texture.

This particular piece began in September 2025 …

Standing infront of an empty white canvas, with a paintbrush in hand, I began to channel the spirit of my inner artist, wondering how to paint a story.

I was thinking about the call OUT to adventure, some of my experiences in the UK, and how I often felt like Alice in Wonderland.


🌀𓂃 ࣪˖ ִֶָ⏱️🐇་༘࿐🎩🗝️⋆𖦹°‧★♔♥️♕♣️♖♦️♗♠️♘

I painted the canvas black, and a rainbow circle appeared, making me think about the first painting I ever painted (it’s the image in the middle with Chinese writing). I felt compelled to paint it when I was separated from my husband, raising (3) tweens, studying to be a nurse, and I was in the middle of a (6) week clinical placement, in a mental health clinic.

Acknowledging the challenges of another significant shift in my relationship with SELF, I began to think about the shitty stuff that happens, and I painted brown skid marks on the rainbow. Deciding the colours felt way too bright, I used a sponge to splodge more brown paint over the rainbow, because I prefer the earthy tones of a dirty rainbow anyways.

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… but it needed some sparkle ✨️

I sprinkled gold glitter around the outside, then added gold stars, and thought it was done, but a few days later I painted a gold swirl, and thought about how often I felt lost in a spinning vortex, seeking gold on a path of less resistance.

Like Dorothy – following the yellow brick road was about finding my way home.

I sprinkled gold glitter on the path for texture, but it didn’t look or feel right, so I painted over the whole thing. Now it was just a gold canvas with nothing much to say, and it sat like that for days, until I decided …

Fuck it …. I’ll just start again 🤷‍♀️

I thought about Alice falling down the rabbit hole, and felt inspired to paint my interpretation of an earthy burrow. I thought about the precious gem stones buried deep in the earth, and the signs, and symbols that frequently synchronised on my path. The dandelion wish clock, the spiral, Tesla’s universal key 3 – 6 – 9, and the alignment of stars.

… but the painting needed a character.

Although I have plenty of creative expression, I don’t have much artistic talent, so I created an image with the help of an app, and I placed my SELF into the painting, wearing rainbow socks.

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When it felt finished, I thought …

Life is like a blank canvas of possibilities, and we are the artist with unlimited potential. We are the creators with the power to design a masterpiece, through the choices we make, and the dreams we bring to life. We are not limited to the colours on our tray because mixing (2) colours creates a new colour. We are the directors of light within the grey, and our challenges brings texture to our art.

✨️💖💥❤️‍🩹❤️‍🔥💫💔💩🌀 ࣪˖ ִֶָ⏱️🐇☆་༘࿐ 🎨👩🏻‍🎨

We are a living, and breathing expression of our creativity because EVERYTHING we do, say, and create becomes a reflection of our inner world. That’s why I believe the human experience is a masterpiece in motion, and we are ALL here to be a creative expression of our most meaningful experiences.

Alchemy is the ultimate creative act – It’s the process of turning the lead of everyday struggles, raw emotions, and chaotic thoughts into the gold of profound expression. When we create, we are acting as an alchemist—transmuting human experience into something that moves the soul.

Alchemy is the spirit of my inner artist 💫

Reflection in rhyme …

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Sipping on my morning cuppa,
I tune IN to my senses.
A simple act of meditation,
that makes me feel the presence of NOW.

What do I see?

The colour green is everywhere,
and all around me,
with splashes of colour.
Shades of red, orange, pink, and yellow.

The forever blooming bergonia, and grevillea,
are attracting the pretty birds and bees.
The native blossom orchid, and banksia brush,
are attracting the beautiful butterflies.

The sky is full of dense grey clouds,
and the dewy drops look like water pearls,
as they glisten under a silvery sky.

The sun is neither bright, nor warm today,
he’s a day-lit moon, and a silvery shadow,
that feels enchanting.

A reminder …

The approaching NEW MOON in Taurus,
is inviting us to reflect upon our intentions.

What do I hear?

Birds are singing while they chitter chatter,
and the bees are buzzing from flower to flower.
The chooks are clucking to the left of me,
and the traffic is humming to the right,
In the distance I hear a dog bark,
and his neighbours are responding in chorus.
The snort of a horse makes me smile,
suggesting he disapproves of their conversation.

I take a sip from my new cup,
and read the words.
I LOVE YOU MUM ♥️

My attention shifts …

To the thoughts and the stories,
that take me to the past, and into the future.
As they collide into the present moment,
I become the bridge of inbetween.

The compression point 💫

A conscious link that transforms memories,
and possibilities into reality.

What lessons have I learned from the past?
How will I bring them forward into the future?

No longer negotiating my hopes and dreams,
I’m focusing on long term personal development, and sustainable spiritual growth,
built on heart centred devotion.

My spiritual roots have grown a strong spine,
and my energy feels deeply grounded.

A connection that anchors me ⚓️

No longer drifting through other people’s lives,
I’m building my own foundations,
but life continues to challenge me to change,
and universe is responding to who I am.

Under this NEW MOON, I declare …

✨️I am the creator of my own experiences

✨️I am grateful for my family and friends

✨️I am always guided and supported

✨️I am the best version of my SELF

✨️I am living a fullfilling life of abundance

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Why don’t we want to stay present with the discomfort?

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I shared a blog about staying present in the moment, and in reflection I over intellectualized the discomfort by focusing on the process, but discomfort is NOT a problem to be solved, it’s an experience to be felt, so I’m going to share my thoughts and feelings about staying present in the moment with discomfort.

Although there’s a simple answer to the question …

We don’t want to stay present with discomfort because it’s uncomfortable

Becoming comfortable with discomfort is a complex process …

My discomfort usually involves an interaction with someone else, and although I’m open to share my experiences, I understand why most people are not. Vulnerability drops the defences to expose our true self (good, bad, ugly), and that also leaves us open to judgement, rejection and manipulation.

I struggle with those reactions myself, but my struggles with vulnerability keeps teaching me how to feel my BIG emotions more deeply, so I can learn how to regulate, build resilience, and actively grow from my challenges. Teaching me how to maintain healthier boundaries, and protect my energy, so I can say NO more confidently when something no longer fits (or) aligns with my truth.

New experiences are catalysts for our personal growth

Sharing my struggles more openly is how I experience genuine in-to-me-see because it invites others to share more openly too, but not everyone is ready for that kind of honesty. Exposing my flaws, faults, failures and fuck ups without projecting the blame onto another, is how I become more accepting of my SELF, so I can realize my own worth, and feel more compassion for the struggle

… but the struggle is real, and it still challenges me.

Lots of things make me uncomfortable, but not everything triggers my defences.

Recent challenges triggered BIG e-motions, and because they operate in the deeper parts of my psyche, they create the BIGGEST reaction within me, and that’s what I want to reflect upon.

GUILT – is often triggered because more open and honest conversations bring uncomfortable truths to our attention, but something is shifting because I no longer feel an intense need to fix my mistakes (or) punish myself to restore balance, because I’ve integrated my shadow. We ALL make mistakes when we are learning and growing, but that’s an important part of our healing.

SHAME – often triggers a deep fear of being unlovable, unworthy, and rejected, but by releasing myself from the guilt of what I (or others) believed I did wrong, changes the inner dialogue. Being open to learn from my experiences makes me more curious, and less judgemental. Increasing my capacity for love, and compassion for SELF and others who are struggling. The more I realize my intrinsic value without needing external validation, the more worthy I feel.

FEAR – triggers many defences for different reasons, and the stories vary, but recently someone reached out to reconnect, and although they are not a bad person, they haven’t been good for me. That’s why I sensed a threat to my mental health, my emotional well-being.

Trauma isn’t defined by an event itself …

… but by the lasting internal impact it has on our mind and body.

Even when we’ve cultivated a growth mindset, and have healed from our most challenging experiences of loss, it doesn’t stop the triggers, but it does influence how we will react and/or respond. When my survival fight/flight/freeze response triggers an automatic reaction in my nervous system, I notice the hypervigilance, flashbacks, and cognitive distortions.

We break this cycle (trauma loop) by rewiring the neural pathway.

I’ve been consciously doing this by learning how to feel safe and secure within the present moment, by being conscious of my resistance to it, making better choices, grounding my energy, and focusing on my senses.

  • Focusing on BE-ing rather than DO-ing
  • Taking deeper breaths to anchor my energy into the present
  • Tuning into my senses to ground my attention into the moment
  • Becoming aware of the tension in my body
  • Acknowledging the resistance so I can release it
  • ACCEPTING the present moment for what it is
  • Observing my thoughts, feelings and stories without judgement
  • Becoming more curious of my reactions
  • LETTING GO of my need to control
  • Fully surrendering to the experience of NOW

Realizing that the power for change lies within the present moment

My openness, and curious nature often triggers the defences in others, but if people understand (or) misunderstand me isn’t my responsibility.

Human beings are conditioned (biologically and socially) to avoid discomfort, distress and pain, but we live in a world that’s full of conflicting truths, and some of those experiences can be a catalyst for our growth. That’s why I often feel called to share my experiences, but the way I write is a prime example of one of my own habitual defence mechanisms, and I’m open to explore that so I can improve my craft as a writer.

I write to make sense of my challenges, but I want to write something worth reading. For me, writing has helped me to understand my SELF better, and writing my story has been a catalyst for my personal growth and development.

I share my thoughts and feelings to support others on a healing journey.