According to the Gregorian calendar, winter doesn’t officially begin until June, but Nature tells us when she’s ready to change, and winter has already arrived.

Seasonal shifts impacts profoundly on our mood and energy because the weather changes – During the winter months, less sunshine alters our internal body clock, and regardless of our gender, we will ALL feel the effects of our shifting hormone levels – Less daylight lowers serotonin (destabilizing our moods), and increases melatonin (makes us want to sleep more)

During the winter, we crave more rest to conserve energy – Embracing our natural instinct to slow down, and turn inwards helps us to adjust our daily routines, so we can align with our true nature, and prevent burn out.

As a 52 year old perimenopausal woman, I’ve been navigating this terrain for a while now because this “change of life” is a process that can take up to 8 fucking years, and that is why it is ALWAYS about the journey my friend.

So, what am I learning on MY hormonal journey?

“Stay away from arseholes,” was my automatic response, and it’s absolutely spot on because as progesterone and oestrogen fluctuate, our capacity for stress diminishes, and our nervous system becomes hyper sensitive.

Suffering the consequences of our self abandonment choices is why most women stop tolerating disrespectful behaviour, and choose not to engage in the chaos of drama. As we learn, heal, mature and grow our biological bullshit filter gets stronger, and we become more responsive to the intuitive guidance of our gut instincts, instead of feeling torn between the timeless dilemma of our inner conflicts – our head (logical facts) and the heart (emotional desires).

This isn’t just a life lesson … it’s a neurological shift.

The chaos of drama is typically created by those seeking a sense of control, an ego boost, or an escape from unhealed trauma, and this behaviour is often driven by deeply ingrained psychological patterns. No one can really escape the drama (unless we avoid people) because the world is full of conflicting truths, and as much as I love the peace of my solitude, I’m very much an active participant in my world because I am here to live, to love, to lose, and to learn.

Becoming conscious of the roles we play in a drama loop (victim, persecutor, rescuer) is how we notice the repetitive scripts, reclaim our personal agency, stop unconsciously fuelling conflict, shift toward authentic problem-solving, and empower ourselves to make a different choice, but we need to be honest with ourselves, so we can acknowledge our own patterns of behaviour.

So, this is me being honest …

As a single woman, I yearn for the company of a lover more during the cooler months because it’s when I miss the presence of a significant other the most, and I feel no shame in admitting that, but my soul needs more than the warmth of a body, and my passion is on a slow burn. I don’t have an itch that needs scratching, there is no tension that needs relief, nothing is broken that needs to be fixed, no pain needs healing, no yearning or seeking needs completion, and there is no hole in my life that needs filling (interpret that as you will).

I am whole, and I acknowledge – I am not ready for the imbalance a new relationship brings, so I am focusing on the relationship I have with my SELF.

I am honouring my truth (the good, the bad, and the indifference)

I am aligning my energy to manifest a deeply fulfilling relationship in the future, with a trustworthy partner because I deserve to be in a healthy relationship with someone who can fully meet me.

I am focusing on self-trust, emotional boundaries, and radical self-awareness to become a magnet for a healthy, secure, and aligned relationship.

So, this winter I won’t be seeking the warmth of a lover, I’ll be …

♥️Feeling cozy in my sanctuary from the cold
♥️Slowing down to enjoy life’s simple pleasures
♥️Wrapping myself up in soft blankets
♥️Nurturing my ideas and inspirations
♥️Working on my creative projects
♥️Connecting with spirit
♥️Doing some arts and crafts
♥️Enjoying the company of family and friends
♥️Lighting fires under the nights sky
♥️Caring for and supporting others
♥️Creating atmospheric ambience with lighting
♥️Preparing garden beds for Spring
♥️Walking slowly in Nature
♥️Taking more naps with my pussy-cat
♥️Curling up on the couch with a good book
♥️Watching stuff I like on the TV
♥️Losing and finding myself in stories
♥️Cooking and baking wholesome foods
♥️Playing music, singing songs and dancing
♥️Wearing fluffy socks and beautiful scarfs
♥️Soaking in warm bubble baths by candle light
♥️Warming my belly with a nip of whiskey
♥️Indulging my senses and soothing my soul

There’s plenty to LOVE about being single during the winter months✌️😍