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NEW MOON in Cancer

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Every NEW MOON is another opportunity for an energetic RESET – but according to the star gazers, this month it’s occurring while Mercury is in Retrograde, so it’s not the time to set our intentions outwards.

Todays NEW MOON in Cancer (my rising sign) is an emotional reset, asking us about our emotional safety, sense of belonging, and what home means for us.

Although each person’s healing journey is unique, there’s a collective story playing out, and we’re all feeling the effects of a system failing us in some way, shape or form, but we need to trust the process of change. Each person’s story is part of the whole, and every one of us plays an important role.

I’ve been redefining my sense of home for many years now …

Home isn’t just a house, and a safe space to BE, it’s a feeling of being at home within our own body, and spirit. Like love, home is a state of being that deeply grounds our energy into the present moment, and that’s where we truly belong – because there is no where else to BE other than in the NOW.

I’ve read that so many times, so I know it, but today I feel it stronger than ever.

For me, this energy feels deeply nurturing, but if you are in your head more than your heart, then this energy may be stirring up some feelings for you.

Mother wounds? Childhood patterns? Emotional scars?

Whatever is arising from within you, or being reflected back to you, then acknowledge it’s presence because the experience is for you.

This is an invitation to re-parent ourselves, and nurture our inner child. To release the armour of our defences, and soften into our feelings, so we can experience deeper healing, and be more authentic in our interactions.

What does emotional safety mean to you?

For me, it means being true to myself, and being in the company of those who allow me to be an open expression of who I truly am. When I’m able to be vulnerable with others, then I feel truly heard, and deeply respected because I know my presence is valued. Feeling emotionally safe shifts me from the defensive reactions of my fear response, to an open and relaxed state of being.

Do you feel safe and nurtured on your current life path?

Yes, and I’m extremely grateful for that, but I am equally grateful for the experiences when I didn’t feel emotionally safe – because it taught me an important lesson I needed to learn. To never doubt my intuitive knowing, to honour my boundaries, and to unapologetically protect my own inner peace.

This planetary alignment is asking us …

What feeds, nourishes, and drains your energy?

It could be where the focus of your attention is flowing, the habits you are repeatedly engaging in, the relationships surrounding you, the content you are consuming and digesting, and the stories you keep telling yourself.

Whatever we are feeding will grow …

  • If we are feeding the fear of loss, then this will intensify within us
  • If we are feeding the peace, then this will radiate from within us
  • If we are feeding the fight of resistance, then we experience more conflict
  • If we are feeding the healing, then we create more meaning and purpose
  • If we are feeding our relationships, then the connections will deepen
  • If we are feeding our gifts, then they will develop and strengthen

What deserves your energy?

For me, it’s still about focusing on building and creating – because I believe more than ever that my stories matter, and that’s why I’m developing my writing skill, improving the relationship I have with my SELF, spending time with those who value my presence, and aligning my life with my soul’s calling.

Knowing that’s how I feel deeply fulfilled, experience more joy in my life, confront challenges with a growth mindset, actualize my full potential, attract my hearts desire, create new realities, and manifest the vision of my dreams.

According to star gazers the energetic shifts you may be feeling right now …

Need for Rest and Nesting: Feeling the urge to retreat into comfortable, safe environments to focus on self-care.

Heightened Sensitivity: Emotions aren’t just passing thoughts; they demand to be understood and expressed.

Nostalgia and Reconnection: Past memories, family history, and even old friends or exes may resurface.

Are your thoughts taking you back into the past?

  • To a feeling you’ve buried
  • To a home you once left
  • To a version of yourself you’ve outgrown
  • To something old that wants to be finished properly

Allow this alignment to reconnect and rebalance you, so you can move towards the next FULL MOON with more clarity and presence for the RELEASE, that will enable you to set deeper intentions during the next NEW MOON cycle.

Trust the process😵‍💫🌀✨

Is there purpose to feeling LOST?

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We all feel lost sometimes, but we don’t always embrace it.

The brain is hardwired to avoid the unknown – because it needs to feel safe and secure, and that’s why not knowing doesn’t feel good, but if we are willing to lean into the discomfort with a little more curiosity, we can learn a lot during times of uncertainty … however, it will feel uncomfortable.

I’m wrapping up a 12 week online writing course, and I began writing a story this week. After writing my life story to make sense of some challenging experiences, I’m now narrowing the focus with more intention, to write about an experience from my life that reflects a significant inner shift.

The story begins in 2022 when I’ve hit another rocky bottom, and I’m taking the reader on a journey, concluding the story one year later.

Many things happen during that time, and I notice how narrating the past from my present perspective is a little different – because I’ve emotionally detached from the experience. Some things have become clearer, while other things have faded into the distance – because temporary stressors, that were once highly charged with energy are no longer fuelled with emotion, so I’m able to see overarching patterns, and my life lessons with more clarity.

Essentially, I’ve shifted focus from the subjective lens of my emotions, to the objective truth, and it’s been another challenging experience to learn and grow from. Ironically, during my university studies, I did the opposite. Shifting from the objective truth of psychological theory, to the subjective lived experience of social theory, to bridge the gap between what we know and how we feel.

Becoming conscious of those internal shifts have been a struggle 😵‍💫

“This transition often mirrors the philosophical concept of phenomenology, which studies the structures of consciousness as experienced from first-person point of view. In psychology, it’s moving from third-person observation to acknowledging how emotions actively shape our internal reality.”

Spiritual influencer, Teal Swan talks about how healing occurs in layers, and from personal experience, I agree, but the journey can often feel like we’re not actually learning anything. Sometimes it can feel like we need to do more healing because we find ourselves confronting the same lesson, but that’s not necessarily true – because there are points in our time-line when repeating a familiar pattern is right on purpose – because we are experiencing it from another perspective to understand another element.

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The deeper we go, the more elements to a pattern we will experience.

Trigger ⋙ Behaviour ⋙ Consequence

For me, its about intimate relationship, and how I’ve abandoned and betrayed my SELF in the name of love, but each experience has been another opportunity for more awareness, and it’s been constantly changing my state of mind, which then influences how I communicate, and relate with another.

Every time a significant relationship has ended, it’s taken time to find my way, and how lost I’ve felt has depended upon the connection I’ve shared, the experiences I’ve had, and the stories I’ve told myself, but I eventually find my way back to my SELF – because I’ve been consciously exploring my inner world for years, to understand what healing means for me …

Reflection ⋙ Reconnection ⋙ Rebalance ⋙ Realignment

That’s why I know that feeling lost is an essential part of our healing process.

It’s a RESET button, to reflect, and an intentional PAUSE before a rebirth.

When we acknowledge that something no longer fits or serves our highest good, we begin to break down of old meaning, so a more authentic SELF can emerge, and that’s how we come back into alignment.

As the NEW MOON in Cancer approaches (my rising sign), it’s a planetary emotional reset, and the energy feels gentle and more nurturing. Cancer is ruled by the Moon, and it’s asking us about our emotional safety, belonging, and home, but I’ll share more about that in the next blog.

If you feel lost right now, then trust the process 🌀

What habit do YOU want to change?

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EVERY day is another opportunity to do something better for ourselves

I want to improve my eating habits, but this process applies to any habit

What is my motivation for change?

  • To reduce my sugar and carb cravings – so I can feel better
  • To feel less fatigue, and more energised – so I can live my best creative life
  • To prevent ill health – so I can improve my quality of life

Having studied psychology, and changed many of my habitual behaviours, I know it’s about more than what I eat, that’s why I openly share my process of change with others. Creating new habits is about replacing an existing behaviour with a healthier one, and to change it – first, we need to acknowledge the habitual loop that keeps reinforcing an unhealthy habit.

I keep repeating the sugar craving loop, and to break it I need to manage my blood sugar levels, identify emotional triggers, and build new habits

  • CUE (trigger) – what initiates the behaviour?
  • ROUTINE (action) – what I do in response to the trigger
  • REWARD (positive reinforcement) – how does it make me feel?

For example – in the morning, which is when I mostly write, I wake up thinking “I need a coffee” to stimulate my brain, but it’s just a habit I’ve created. I actually want to do more than stimulate my brain into action, I want to get the energy flowing within me, so I can feel connected to my body – because it has something important to say about experiences I have (past and present).

Like my feet when they tell me to – take your shoes off and ground us, put your feet up to reduce this swelling, wear your shoes when you walk more than 30 minutes or we’ll hurt tomorrow, rub us because we’re aching and the blood needs to flow, wash us because you’ve been walking around barefoot all day.

Our body communicates with us all the time, and learning how to listen is the most important part of healing – because until we connect with our body, we can’t balance the energy, and we won’t align with our higher self.

This morning I intentionally changed my morning routine ..

BEFORE making myself a cup of coffee, I washed my face, and gave myself a quick lymphatic drainage massage while applying bio-oil to my face – because it felt so good, I continued to brush the rest of my body using sweeping strokes, which then prompted me to do a few stretches.

How did this small change in my routine make me feel?

Connected to my body, and so I made another healthy choice – while the kettle was boiling, I drank a glass of water with a squeeze of lemon, splash of cider vinegar, and honey added to it. After drinking it I felt my insides wake up, and within 10 minutes I felt better than I do after that first cup of coffee.

Isn’t it crazy that we don’t do the things we know are good for us.

I still drank a cup of coffee, but I must admit – it didn’t feel as satisfying because I had experienced the (+) reinforcement of a healthier routine.

AFTER drinking my coffee, I felt really good about myself, and I made a bowl of porridge with all the yummy additions (seeds, nuts, my homemade berry chia seed jam, honey, cinnamon and nutmeg), and I felt nurtured and nourished.

Can I maintain that change every morning?

YES I believe I can, but I still love buttery toast, and I’m not going to deny myself when I fancy it – because I’m changing my usual no carbs or sugar approach, to find a sense of moderation.

To make a change we need to have a clear plan …

  • What am I doing?
  • Why am I doing it?
  • How will I do it?

I’m working on changing my morning routine because I know from experience – it will make me feel good, and when I feel good, I make other good choices.

The contradictions of LIFE is the paradox of human experience …

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After standing on top of the metaphoric mountain yesterday, sharing star gazer insights, and tooting out of my own Capricorn horns. Sharing the wisdom of my soul, and the magick of my own medicine – I felt called to write as the Moon became her fullest this morning (9.56am) because I can also be a stupid goat.

My daughter said it best the other day, when my hormonal brain was struggling to string some words together in a logical sentence …

“Mam, you’re either all knowing and wise (or) ditsy as fuck,”

Followed by a soul sister telling me this morning …

“You’re so smart, you’re stupid.”

– and neither of them are wrong 🤣🤣🤣

But how wonderful to be truly seen, and loved deeply for who I really am.

I’ve always openly expressed the real me, and it isn’t always positive, nice, comfortable or beautiful – so many have witnessed the honesty of my imperfect SELF – the embarrassment of my humiliation, the flustering of my flaws, the stress of my internal chaos, the uncertainty of my curiosities, the anxiety of my fear, the frustration of my failure, and the shame of my fuckups.

Ironically, as the mythical Sea Goat – I have climbed many a mountain (both figuratively and literally speaking), but there’s nothing graceful or nimble about me, and even though I willingly dive into the darkest depths of my unconscious mind, I’m actually afraid of the ocean. Too scared to venture any further than knee deep in water (sea, lake or river), because that depth is shallow enough to still run away from anything that wants to drown, sting, bite or eat me.

Does that make me a cosmic mix up?

No, it just makes me human, and that’s why I don’t always make good choices.

Like last night – when I devoured another family block of Cadbury’s and felt like crap (obviously) because I have zero impulse control, and it got me thinking

If I was to pick an actor to play a character in my own story, who would it be?

So, for fun I asked Google A.I …

Which actor is a combination of Yoda and Bridget Jones

“An actor who perfectly balances the traits of Yoda’s ancient, cryptic wisdom with Bridget Jones’s neurotic, chaotic, and highly relatable romantic struggles would be a master of deadpan and emotional nuance. This mashup – an all-knowing sage who can’t stop obsessing over her calorie count, her love life, and whether she’s a “f***ing disaster” – demands a very specific kind of talent.” … so I am a talented woman afterall 🤣

Oliver Colman and Imelda Staunton were some suggestions to consider.

My writing is still a work in progress, but I haven’t lost sight of the vision of my BIG DREAM – to write something that someone will make into a movie, because I’ve already imagined it, and I realize the power of my imagination. Most things I’ve successfully created began as a vision in my mind, before it became a reality in the physical world – to be experienced.

Imagination is everything. It’s the preview of life’s coming attractions.” – Albert Einstein

Like here, now in the cottage – I’ve imagined living this life amongst the trees, and it’s not the first time I’ve experienced it. I created some wonderful memories in a place aptly called – Heaven in the Hills, in a cottage named Gabriel’s rest when covid first broke out, but this time – energetically speaking, as I continue to write my story, it feels like I’ve planted myself here.

– to grow.

Planting ourselves somewhere to grow means – setting deep energetic roots in an environment that nourishes our spirit, and helps us to thrive.

I love it here for so many reasons, and I’m deeply grateful to be renting space from the woman who owns the land – a writer who inspires me, and a woman I hold in high regard – but it isn’t my forever home. Like other places, it called to me, and I’ve created a beautiful home here, but there will come a time in the future, when I’ll feel the call to leave – and I’ll BE somewhere else.

  • Perhaps that knowing helps me to feel less attached?
  • Maybe I don’t hold on anymore because loss has taught me so much?
  • Perhaps that’s how we learn to detach?

Nature reminds us – to grow, we need to be willing to let go of what we’ve outgrown, and that means letting go of things we once wanted, and sometimes what we needed, but nothing stays the same … including ourselves.

Under this FULL MOON I’ve been acknowledging what I’ve outgrown …

The habit (people pleasing to keep others comfortable), the job (working in aged care facilities), the relationship (a repeated pattern of self abandonment), the limiting belief (that my worth depends on something external to me) and the chapter (that compromised my value).

I’ve made some mis-takes over the years, but I’ve achieved so much more …

Most mothers say that our greatest creations are our children, and I agree wholeheartedly because I treasure all (3) of my children, but right or wrong, I wanted to do more than create a family – I’ve built a career, lived in many different houses, and created many beautiful homes. I’ve recreated my SELF many times over, and built a genuine reputation. I’ve created experiences, lived my wildest dreams, built skills, served communities, and found my tribe of trusted friends. I’m constantly building upon my knowledge, developing my character, and I’m creating my own legacy by living intentionally TODAY.

YES – I am devoted to my spiritual path, aligned with my genuine desires, and I’ll continue to climb this mountain (and many more) because I’m here to build a life that feels good for me, fully committed to being the best version of my SELF, and I feel supported to create the life I imagine is possible.

Yesterday, I shared the conversation occurring between Capricorn and Cancer, and after reflecting upon the questions being asked, I acknowledge – my eating habits need to change before Universe slaps me with a wake up call, because my body keeps telling me – I’m struggling to process too many carbs and sugars. Improving my eating habits will create other positive changes – more energy for outdoor activities and less screen time – more energy to create and less thinking about it.

I also acknowledge …

  • My relationship with Nature nurtures and nourishes me the most
  • I feel like home, so it doesn’t matter where I am or who I’m with, but being close to those who matter most to me makes that feeling grow stronger.
  • Being a full expression of my SELF makes me feel emotionally safe
  • Those (3) things support my growth.

YES – I am setting clearer boundaries in my life because experience has taught me – not everyone attracted to my light is good for me, and that’s how my energy is drained. The hormonal fluctuation of my transition from mother to crone (peri-menopause), and my lifestyle choices has a huge impact on my energy, so I’m paying attention, but I still make bad choices because like every other person in the world – I am a flawed human being.

So, this is me saying to YOU – embrace your own authentic journey because we are ALL complex creatures of contradiction, constantly balancing the dualities within us, and it’s not always easy, but it doesn’t make us any less beautiful.

I hope it offers some reassurance to know that you’re not alone in the struggle.

I see YOU ❤️

Perspective …

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Every now and then I share a post like this, and it’s usually when I’m gaining a new perspective.

This morning when I got out of bed, I looked in the mirror, and I smiled at the reflection looking back at me. As I write that it makes me think about a client I support with dementia. How she often smiles, has a little giggle, and says “I love you” at the reflection looking back at her, while she’s washing her hands at the bathroom sink. 😍

If only we could all see ourselves in that way, but at times we do. Like me, this morning, but it’s unrealistic and unreasonable to expect to feel that way all the time, because we don’t.

… and that’s OK

Our GREATEST challenge as human beings, is learning how to embrace ALL of who we are, so we can fully experience the present moment, no matter how uncomfortable or unpleasant it is.

Whether it’s how we are seeing ourselves, what we are thinking about another, how we are looking at a challenge we’re struggling with, or what we think the problem is …

Adjusting our focus helps ( ꩜ ᯅ ꩜;) 

✨️️Internal perspective (how I think, feel, and react to an experience)

✨️External perspective (how others are experiencing it)

✨️Objective perspective (unbiased view of a shared experience)

Gaining the helicopter view of objectivity asks us to emotionally detach from an experience, but it’s not easy to remove the intensity of an emotion, especially when we are experiencing any form of pain.

Mind 🤯 Body 🤕 💔 or Spirit 🕳

… but what are those experiences teaching us?

It takes conscious effort, and courage to see the truth of reality in an objective way, without getting lost in the stories we tell ourselves.

That’s why our healing matters ✨️

I take photos at the same time from different angles like that, as a visual reminder – that we can be looking at the same thing, but be seeing something different – because it depends on our point of view, and what we choose to focus on.

Truth is, I am ALL those POV …

✨️Unflattering angle – captures my uglier side that I don’t want others to see.

✨️Realistic angle – captures my honest side that I’m most comfortable with.

✨️Complimentary angle – captures my better side that I prefer others see.

Whenever I’m shifting my point of view from a negative frame of mind, to a higher perspective it creates a shift in my energy that makes me think and feel differently.

… but its a process of change 🌀

When you have an itch … then scratch it.

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YES, I am being immature, but sometimes life can feel too serious, and we benefit from lighting the fuck up.

Statistically, there’s been a significant shift over the last two decades – with more unpartnered people in the world. In my humble opinion, the dating apps have contributed because the design is flawed. More option creates a casual approach to what we refer to as ‘the dating game,’ disrubpting the potential for stability, and exposing more situationships than creating successful matches for long term relationship.

… but that’s a blog for another time.

Women adjust to living alone, and we can be innovative and creative. Most of us have family and friends to fullfill our emotional needs, and some of us have a variety of toys to satisfy our sexual needs. More women are embracing and exploring their sexuality, regardess of their relationship status, but I may have reached another stage of my life.

… or perhaps it’s the men – oh – pause 🤣

Because the tools I use most to scratch an itch, and relieve tension these days have changed form, but lets be honest, it’s just another version of cock n’ balls.

Yup, it tickles my funny bone, but the spaghetti spoon, and balls are amazing tools that serve more than their intended or recommended purpose.

When my feet are in need of a foot rub, I roll my feet over the spiky ball on the floor. It feels fucking fabulous, and it also helps to relieve the plantar fasciitis I get after walking /standing too long.

When I need a massage, I push against the tennis ball on a wall. Like a bear scratching on a tree, it’s a great way to work out the knots and tension.

When my back is itching and I can’t reach it, I use the spaghetti scoop to scratch it. Gotta laugh because I notice the spag scoop even as the eye.

On a serious note, I do enjoy the peace of my solitudinal bliss because I’ve created a beautiful home, and living a wonderful life, but I still feel lonely at times, and I yearn for romance and intimacy, but I’m just not ready. I feel pleasure from so many other things, and life fullfills me, but I don’t judge myself for feeling how I feel.

Whenever those sexual urges do begin to flow, and I’m feeling lonesome, telling myself that I want or need to be in a relationship, I reach for other tools, and the feeling usually passes 🤣

The comfort zone …

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I like this image of the comfort zone by Tom Senninger because it’s a great visual of the process. We ALL feel comfortable sitting on our arse at home, especially in a conflicting world, but “All growth starts at the end of your comfort zone” (Tony Robbins)

For (9) years I lived out of the comfort zone. Like a gypsy, I moved back and forth between the UK and Australia, drifting in and out of other peoples lives, unsure where I belonged.

I learned so much from those experiences, but shifting from drifting (seeking experiences to learn and grow from) to settling back into the comfort zone (embracing stillness) was equally challenging because I’m not the same woman I once was.

  • Routine felt boring
  • Structure felt restrictive
  • Staying still felt stifling
  • Stability felt stagnant
  • Settling felt wrong

Ironically, but not surprisingly the comfort zone didn’t feel comfortable anymore. I was afraid of stepping back into an old version of myself that no longer fit, and I experienced what psychology defines as “a transitional identity crisis.” A realization that helped me to understand some of my struggles.

During those (9) years out of the comfort zone I experienced detachment from those I love most, I lost my parents, and a soul sister to cancer. I fell in love with men who couldn’t fully meet me, and I let them all go, but I never lost love.

Grief and loss challenged me to be in a constant state of transition.

What did I learn?

Living out of the comfort zone builds resilience, but adaptation isn’t always a (+) experience. Adjusting our behaviours, thoughts, and emotions in response to new, uncertain, or unfamiliar situations is essential to thrive, but some environments will trigger us to compromise ourselves, and we will learn and grow the most from those inner conflicts.

There’s a story to be told about why I lost my SELF in someone else’s story, and how I began to reclaim the narrative, but it’s taken time to reconnect with MY truth, regain a sense of balance, realign with my personal values, integrate the lessons, rebuild my own life, redesign the comfort zone, and reframe the return into comfort, as deepening my roots.

Feeling more settled has provided me with a safe space to notice with greater clarity – which habits are truly comforting, what hinders my growth, and when my choices have been self destructive – acknowledging how many times I compromised my needs to prioritize another.

As women, so many of us are guilty of this ☝️🤨

The discomfort of that truth has shifted something within me. My head and heart are finally in alignment, and my soul no longer feels restless … because I am home ✨️

My kinda spiritual practice …

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There’s so much about living a gypsy life I miss, and being infront of an open fire in Nature is one of them. Building a fire outside makes me feel connected to my ancestoral roots, it ignites my inner flame, uplifts my spirit, and brings immense joy to my heart.

We live in a world of convenience, and its much quicker and easier to plug a kettle in, but when I use electricity I miss an opportunity to connect in this way. So, this is one way I am consciously slowing down this Winter.

A simple act of boiling water in my copper kettle, over an open flame, on a cold morning, while the sun rises is priceless, and it reminds me that happiness is something we create.

… but it’s natural to feel unhappy in loss.

To be honest, sometimes I feel frustrated with myself, but healing doesn’t have a timeline, and it’s a deeply personal experience. I’ve been rebuilding my life, re-engaging with systems that challenge me, reconnecting with MY truth, rebalancing conflicting energy, healing a disregulated nervous system, and realigning with my spiritual self.

It takes patience … and lotsa practice.

Healing an abandonment wound isn’t about finding someone who stays … it’s learning how NOT to abandon ourselves in relationship with another.

Healing a beytral wound isn’t about being with someone who won’t betray our trust … it’s learning how to trust our own intuitive guidance.

Maintaining healthier boundaries has been essential to my healing process, so I can fully appreciate if or when others need to detach and disconnect themselves from me. I still feel the LOVE ❤️ but someone’s presence in our lives is determined by the choices we make, and how we make each other feel.

As I continue to learn from the past, feel more present in the moments, and imagine a better future, the collision of realities feel less confusing, because I understand the purpose of each timeline, and can give it meaning.

That’s how I grow from my experiences.

Oh, I still get the wobbles whenever I’m triggerd because I can still be a beautiful hot mess, but I am no less divine in my human expression of my true SELF.

I feel supported and guided by an energy with many names (Universe, Nature, God/Goddess, spirit, soul, Divine Mother and Father, Sacred feminine and masculine). An energy I consciously choose to connect with because it serves my highest good, and therefore the GREATER GOOD OF ALL.

Truth is … life will ALWAYS have its challenges, but with or without a significant other, my life continues to be a wonderful adventure ✌️😍

Breaking the habit of seeking a lover …

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According to the Gregorian calendar, winter doesn’t officially begin until June, but Nature tells us when she’s ready to change, and winter has arrived.

Can you feel the shift ?

Seasonal shifts influence our mood and energy because of the weather changes – Less sunshine alters our internal body clock, and regardless of our gender, we ALL feel the effects of shifting hormone levels – Less daylight lowers serotonin and dopamine (destabilizing our moods), and increases melatonin (making us feel like sleeping more).

As a 52 year old perimenopausal woman I’ve been navigating hormonal shifts for a while now, because the “change of life” is a process, and it can take up to 8 fucking years, which is why it’s ALWAYS about the journey.

During the winter months …

Embracing our natural instinct to slow down, and turn inwards can help us to adjust our daily routines, so we can prevent burn out, but we live in a world that keeps demanding more from us. That’s why honoring our need to slow down is a deeply grounding rebellion.

What am I learning on MY hormonal journey?

“Stay away from arseholes,” was my automatic response, and it’s absolutely spot on because we have less tolerance for the bullshit we are often served.

As progesterone and oestrogen fluctuate, our capacity for stress diminishes, and our nervous system becomes hyper sensitive. That’s why women of a certain age stop tolerating disrespectful behaviour, choosing not to engage in the chaos of drama.

As we learn, heal, mature and grow we become more responsive to the intuitive guidance of our gut instincts, instead of feeling torn between the timeless dilemma of our inner conflicts – our head (logic) and the heart (emotional desire). We value our time and energy because we know our worth, and life has become even more precious to us.

This isn’t just a life lesson … it’s a neurological shift.

I’m less resistive to change because my growth game is strong, but spiritual growth demands honesty, and that still challenges me when my consciousness shifts, as I become more self aware of my own patterns of behaviour.

As a single woman with a healthy appetite for life, food and sex, I usually seek the company of a lover, even when I’m not ready to commit to a relationship. I notice how I usually crave the warmth of a lover more during the cooler months, and I feel no shame in admitting that, but my soul wants more than the warmth of a body, and thanks to perimenopause my passion is on a slow burn, so my priorities have shifted.

To anchor my energy, and deepen the spiritual roots that ground me into the present moment.

I’m not seeking a lover because I don’t have an itch that needs scratching, there is no tension that needs relief. I don’t need anything that’s missing from me. I no longer need resolution from others because I don’t need validation, nothing feels inccomplete, and there is no hole in my life that needs filling (interpret that as you will).

I am whole – but I am ALWAYS becoming.

My sexual and creative energy is sacred, and in the past I’ve shared it with others too freely because I am open to love – and I’ve suffered the consequences of my choices – but I have learned

YES … I do desire to be in a relationship with another – to share, to create, to build and to grow together – but I acknowledge that I’m not ready for the imbalance a new relationship brings when two energies and lives merge.

So, I’m focusing on the relationship I have with my SELF – honouring my truth (the good, the bad, and the indifference), acknowledging the patterns of my own behaviour, releasing what I’ve outgrown, and aligning my energy to manifest a deeply fulfilling relationship in the future – with a trustworthy partner because I deserve to be in a healthy relationship with someone who can fully meet me.

This winter I won’t be seeking the warmth of a lover, I’ll be …

♥️Feeling cozy in my sanctuary from the cold
♥️Slowing down to enjoy life’s simple pleasures
♥️Wrapping myself up in soft blankets
♥️Nurturing my ideas and inspirations
♥️Working on my creative projects
♥️Connecting with spirit
♥️Doing some arts and crafts
♥️Enjoying the company of family and friends
♥️Lighting fires under the nights sky
♥️Caring for and supporting others
♥️Creating atmospheric ambience with lighting
♥️Preparing garden beds for Spring
♥️Walking slowly in Nature
♥️Taking more naps with my pussy-cat
♥️Curling up on the couch with a good book
♥️Watching stuff I like on the TV
♥️Losing and finding myself in stories
♥️Cooking and baking wholesome foods
♥️Playing music, singing songs and dancing
♥️Wearing fluffy socks and beautiful scarfs
♥️Soaking in warm bubble baths by candle light
♥️Warming my belly with a nip of whiskey
♥️Indulging my senses and soothing my soul

There’s plenty to LOVE about being single during the winter months✌️😍

Reflection in rhyme …

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Sipping on my morning cuppa,
I tune IN to my senses.
A simple act of meditation,
that makes me feel the presence of NOW.

What do I see?

The colour green is everywhere,
and all around me,
with splashes of colour.
Shades of red, orange, pink, and yellow.

The forever blooming bergonia, and grevillea,
are attracting the pretty birds and bees.
The native blossom orchid, and banksia brush,
are attracting the beautiful butterflies.

The sky is full of dense grey clouds,
and the dewy drops look like water pearls,
as they glisten under a silvery sky.

The sun is neither bright, nor warm today,
he’s a day-lit moon, and a silvery shadow,
that feels enchanting.

A reminder …

The approaching NEW MOON in Taurus,
is inviting us to reflect upon our intentions.

What do I hear?

Birds are singing while they chitter chatter,
and the bees are buzzing from flower to flower.
The chooks are clucking to the left of me,
and the traffic is humming to the right,
In the distance I hear a dog bark,
and his neighbours are responding in chorus.
The snort of a horse makes me smile,
suggesting he disapproves of their conversation.

I take a sip from my new cup,
and read the words.
I LOVE YOU MUM ♥️

My attention shifts …

To the thoughts and the stories,
that take me to the past, and into the future.
As they collide into the present moment,
I become the bridge of inbetween.

The compression point 💫

A conscious link that transforms memories,
and possibilities into reality.

What lessons have I learned from the past?
How will I bring them forward into the future?

No longer negotiating my hopes and dreams,
I’m focusing on long term personal development, and sustainable spiritual growth,
built on heart centred devotion.

My spiritual roots have grown a strong spine,
and my energy feels deeply grounded.

A connection that anchors me ⚓️

No longer drifting through other people’s lives,
I’m building my own foundations,
but life continues to challenge me to change,
and universe is responding to who I am.

Under this NEW MOON, I declare …

✨️I am the creator of my own experiences

✨️I am grateful for my family and friends

✨️I am always guided and supported

✨️I am the best version of my SELF

✨️I am living a fullfilling life of abundance

✨️I am worthy of my hopes and dreams

✨️I am loved, I am lovable, and I am LOVE

As it IS, so mote it BE 💫