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Our daily routines can become sacred practices

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Did you know that drinking from our favourite mug is a deeply grounding experience – because it gives us those feel-good vibes, that calm our nervous system, and brings us a deep sense of comfort as we drink.

So many of our repetitive actions are opportunities for SELF care, and spiritual connection, but we need to shift our focus – from mindlessly doing something – to cultivating a stronger sense of presence, and we do it by …

  • Intentionally slowing down
  • To anchor ourselves into the present moment
  • Tuning into our senses – to notice how we feel
  • Expressing gratitude for the sensation of presence
  • Becoming aware of our breath – the rhythm of our life force
  • Creating a conscious experience to be fully embraced

That’s the practice of being in the flow

In flow – our daily routines become more conscious and intentional …

  • Sweeping the floor, with the intention of clearing the path
  • Taking a shower, with the intention of cleansing our energy
  • Preparing a meal, with the intention of nourishing the body
  • Making a bed, with the intention of creating a sanctuary for rest
  • Washing our hands, with the intention of washing away negativity

Every experience can become sacred with deeper intention

Learning how to stay in flow when confronted with unpleasant and uncomfortable challenges is something else though, and no matter how present we may feel, we’ll be missing something – because it’s impossible not to be triggered OUT or IN by stress, struggle and suffering (or) conflict, confusion and chaos, but like it or not, there’s meaning and purpose for ALL of it.

Those are the moments of reflection we need to be gentle, kind and compassionate with ourselves – because that’s when our nervous system is remembering, and the healing begins to happen.

Re-connection ✨️ Re-balance ✨️ Re-alignment ✨️

The more I slow down, the longer I sit in the comfort zone, and the more aware of my SELF I become, the more present I feel -because there are less distractions, but I can appreciate why this isn’t common practice – because becoming more conscious of ourselves isn’t always pleasant.

Eliminating the external noise allows us to peel back the layers, to confront our deeper reality – giving us more clarity on our unresolved emotions and un-integrated shadow, and it’s an uncomfortable experience – hence why I’ve been struggling with my comfort eating habit … but I am learning.

Yesterday, I decided to change my morning routine, and I made good choices most of the day, but I did eat too many carbs later in the evening because I felt the heaviness in my gut. I don’t feel like getting up out of bed early in the morning after a late shift, and I woke with a headache, so I didn’t feel good.

Mindful of my NEW routine, I did what I had planned to do …

Washing my face with warm water felt soothing, giving myself a lymphatic facial massage with the bi-oil left my skin feeling fresh and soft, brush stroking my body to say good morning felt comforting, and I stretched for longer because feeling the relief of my back clicking into alignment felt amazing.

The headache was still lingering, but I know it’s a combination of things – a late night, too many carbs in the evening, hormonal fluctuations, and my brain telling me “I need coffee,” but I drank the glass of water with lemon, apple cider vinegar, honey, and I decided NOT to give my brain what it wants.

Instead, I made myself a dandelion root coffee – in another life – when I was a night shift nurse, and a full time university student, I drank too much caffeine to stimulate my brain (as most of us do), but it was having a negative impact on my nervous system, so I began to substitute it for dandelion root coffee – because it came in the form of brown granules. Essentially, I was tricking my brain to believe I was still drinking the coffee it was telling me I needed.

Studying neuroscience and behavioural psychology had it’s perks.

I love the smell and taste of coffee, but I don’t like how my body responds to it, especially when it becomes a habitual pattern of behaviour that’s sabotaging my efforts – because caffeine worsens our perimenopausal symptoms.

While writing this blog of reflection to share, I’ve been doing some intentional deep breathing, made myself a cup of chamomile, ate an apple, and I feel better because the headache has gone, but I’m still tired. So, perhaps a siesta after lunch is on the cards for me – because I’m on another late shift tonight.

Change is a process 🌀

What habit do YOU want to change?

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EVERY day is another opportunity to do something better for ourselves

I want to improve my eating habits, but this process applies to any habit

What is my motivation for change?

  • To reduce my sugar and carb cravings – so I can feel better
  • To feel less fatigue, and more energised – so I can live my best creative life
  • To prevent ill health – so I can improve my quality of life

Having studied psychology, and changed many of my habitual behaviours, I know it’s about more than what I eat, that’s why I openly share my process of change with others. Creating new habits is about replacing an existing behaviour with a healthier one, and to change it – first, we need to acknowledge the habitual loop that keeps reinforcing an unhealthy habit.

I keep repeating the sugar craving loop, and to break it I need to manage my blood sugar levels, identify emotional triggers, and build new habits

  • CUE (trigger) – what initiates the behaviour?
  • ROUTINE (action) – what I do in response to the trigger
  • REWARD (positive reinforcement) – how does it make me feel?

For example – in the morning, which is when I mostly write, I wake up thinking “I need a coffee” to stimulate my brain, but it’s just a habit I’ve created. I actually want to do more than stimulate my brain into action, I want to get the energy flowing within me, so I can feel connected to my body – because it has something important to say about experiences I have (past and present).

Like my feet when they tell me to – take your shoes off and ground us, put your feet up to reduce this swelling, wear your shoes when you walk more than 30 minutes or we’ll hurt tomorrow, rub us because we’re aching and the blood needs to flow, wash us because you’ve been walking around barefoot all day.

Our body communicates with us all the time, and learning how to listen is the most important part of healing – because until we connect with our body, we can’t balance the energy, and we won’t align with our higher self.

This morning I intentionally changed my morning routine ..

BEFORE making myself a cup of coffee, I washed my face, and gave myself a quick lymphatic drainage massage while applying bio-oil to my face – because it felt so good, I continued to brush the rest of my body using sweeping strokes, which then prompted me to do a few stretches.

How did this small change in my routine make me feel?

Connected to my body, and so I made another healthy choice – while the kettle was boiling, I drank a glass of water with a squeeze of lemon, splash of cider vinegar, and honey added to it. After drinking it I felt my insides wake up, and within 10 minutes I felt better than I do after that first cup of coffee.

Isn’t it crazy that we don’t do the things we know are good for us.

I still drank a cup of coffee, but I must admit – it didn’t feel as satisfying because I had experienced the (+) reinforcement of a healthier routine.

AFTER drinking my coffee, I felt really good about myself, and I made a bowl of porridge with all the yummy additions (seeds, nuts, my homemade berry chia seed jam, honey, cinnamon and nutmeg), and I felt nurtured and nourished.

Can I maintain that change every morning?

YES I believe I can, but I still love buttery toast, and I’m not going to deny myself when I fancy it – because I’m changing my usual no carbs or sugar approach, to find a sense of moderation.

To make a change we need to have a clear plan …

  • What am I doing?
  • Why am I doing it?
  • How will I do it?

I’m working on changing my morning routine because I know from experience – it will make me feel good, and when I feel good, I make other good choices.

The contradictions of LIFE is the paradox of human experience …

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After standing on top of the metaphoric mountain yesterday, sharing star gazer insights, and tooting out of my own Capricorn horns. Sharing the wisdom of my soul, and the magick of my own medicine – I felt called to write as the Moon became her fullest this morning (9.56am) because I can also be a stupid goat.

My daughter said it best the other day, when my hormonal brain was struggling to string some words together in a logical sentence …

“Mam, you’re either all knowing and wise (or) ditsy as fuck,”

Followed by a soul sister telling me this morning …

“You’re so smart, you’re stupid.”

– and neither of them are wrong 🤣🤣🤣

But how wonderful to be truly seen, and loved deeply for who I really am.

I’ve always openly expressed the real me, and it isn’t always positive, nice, comfortable or beautiful – so many have witnessed the honesty of my imperfect SELF – the embarrassment of my humiliation, the flustering of my flaws, the stress of my internal chaos, the uncertainty of my curiosities, the anxiety of my fear, the frustration of my failure, and the shame of my fuckups.

Ironically, as the mythical Sea Goat – I have climbed many a mountain (both figuratively and literally speaking), but there’s nothing graceful or nimble about me, and even though I willingly dive into the darkest depths of my unconscious mind, I’m actually afraid of the ocean. Too scared to venture any further than knee deep in water (sea, lake or river), because that depth is shallow enough to still run away from anything that wants to drown, sting, bite or eat me.

Does that make me a cosmic mix up?

No, it just makes me human, and that’s why I don’t always make good choices.

Like last night – when I devoured another family block of Cadbury’s and felt like crap (obviously) because I have zero impulse control, and it got me thinking

If I was to pick an actor to play a character in my own story, who would it be?

So, for fun I asked Google A.I …

Which actor is a combination of Yoda and Bridget Jones

“An actor who perfectly balances the traits of Yoda’s ancient, cryptic wisdom with Bridget Jones’s neurotic, chaotic, and highly relatable romantic struggles would be a master of deadpan and emotional nuance. This mashup – an all-knowing sage who can’t stop obsessing over her calorie count, her love life, and whether she’s a “f***ing disaster” – demands a very specific kind of talent.” … so I am a talented woman afterall 🤣

Oliver Colman and Imelda Staunton were some suggestions to consider.

My writing is still a work in progress, but I haven’t lost sight of the vision of my BIG DREAM – to write something that someone will make into a movie, because I’ve already imagined it, and I realize the power of my imagination. Most things I’ve successfully created began as a vision in my mind, before it became a reality in the physical world – to be experienced.

Imagination is everything. It’s the preview of life’s coming attractions.” – Albert Einstein

Like here, now in the cottage – I’ve imagined living this life amongst the trees, and it’s not the first time I’ve experienced it. I created some wonderful memories in a place aptly called – Heaven in the Hills, in a cottage named Gabriel’s rest when covid first broke out, but this time – energetically speaking, as I continue to write my story, it feels like I’ve planted myself here.

– to grow.

Planting ourselves somewhere to grow means – setting deep energetic roots in an environment that nourishes our spirit, and helps us to thrive.

I love it here for so many reasons, and I’m deeply grateful to be renting space from the woman who owns the land – a writer who inspires me, and a woman I hold in high regard – but it isn’t my forever home. Like other places, it called to me, and I’ve created a beautiful home here, but there will come a time in the future, when I’ll feel the call to leave – and I’ll BE somewhere else.

  • Perhaps that knowing helps me to feel less attached?
  • Maybe I don’t hold on anymore because loss has taught me so much?
  • Perhaps that’s how we learn to detach?

Nature reminds us – to grow, we need to be willing to let go of what we’ve outgrown, and that means letting go of things we once wanted, and sometimes what we needed, but nothing stays the same … including ourselves.

Under this FULL MOON I’ve been acknowledging what I’ve outgrown …

The habit (people pleasing to keep others comfortable), the job (working in aged care facilities), the relationship (a repeated pattern of self abandonment), the limiting belief (that my worth depends on something external to me) and the chapter (that compromised my value).

I’ve made some mis-takes over the years, but I’ve achieved so much more …

Most mothers say that our greatest creations are our children, and I agree wholeheartedly because I treasure all (3) of my children, but right or wrong, I wanted to do more than create a family – I’ve built a career, lived in many different houses, and created many beautiful homes. I’ve recreated my SELF many times over, and built a genuine reputation. I’ve created experiences, lived my wildest dreams, built skills, served communities, and found my tribe of trusted friends. I’m constantly building upon my knowledge, developing my character, and I’m creating my own legacy by living intentionally TODAY.

YES – I am devoted to my spiritual path, aligned with my genuine desires, and I’ll continue to climb this mountain (and many more) because I’m here to build a life that feels good for me, fully committed to being the best version of my SELF, and I feel supported to create the life I imagine is possible.

Yesterday, I shared the conversation occurring between Capricorn and Cancer, and after reflecting upon the questions being asked, I acknowledge – my eating habits need to change before Universe slaps me with a wake up call, because my body keeps telling me – I’m struggling to process too many carbs and sugars. Improving my eating habits will create other positive changes – more energy for outdoor activities and less screen time – more energy to create and less thinking about it.

I also acknowledge …

  • My relationship with Nature nurtures and nourishes me the most
  • I feel like home, so it doesn’t matter where I am or who I’m with, but being close to those who matter most to me makes that feeling grow stronger.
  • Being a full expression of my SELF makes me feel emotionally safe
  • Those (3) things support my growth.

YES – I am setting clearer boundaries in my life because experience has taught me – not everyone attracted to my light is good for me, and that’s how my energy is drained. The hormonal fluctuation of my transition from mother to crone (peri-menopause), and my lifestyle choices has a huge impact on my energy, so I’m paying attention, but I still make bad choices because like every other person in the world – I am a flawed human being.

So, this is me saying to YOU – embrace your own authentic journey because we are ALL complex creatures of contradiction, constantly balancing the dualities within us, and it’s not always easy, but it doesn’t make us any less beautiful.

I hope it offers some reassurance to know that you’re not alone in the struggle.

I see YOU ❤️

Perspective …

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Every now and then I share a post like this, and it’s usually when I’m gaining a new perspective.

This morning when I got out of bed, I looked in the mirror, and I smiled at the reflection looking back at me. As I write that it makes me think about a client I support with dementia. How she often smiles, has a little giggle, and says “I love you” at the reflection looking back at her, while she’s washing her hands at the bathroom sink. 😍

If only we could all see ourselves in that way, but at times we do. Like me, this morning, but it’s unrealistic and unreasonable to expect to feel that way all the time, because we don’t.

… and that’s OK

Our GREATEST challenge as human beings, is learning how to embrace ALL of who we are, so we can fully experience the present moment, no matter how uncomfortable or unpleasant it is.

Whether it’s how we are seeing ourselves, what we are thinking about another, how we are looking at a challenge we’re struggling with, or what we think the problem is …

Adjusting our focus helps ( ꩜ ᯅ ꩜;) 

✨️️Internal perspective (how I think, feel, and react to an experience)

✨️External perspective (how others are experiencing it)

✨️Objective perspective (unbiased view of a shared experience)

Gaining the helicopter view of objectivity asks us to emotionally detach from an experience, but it’s not easy to remove the intensity of an emotion, especially when we are experiencing any form of pain.

Mind 🤯 Body 🤕 💔 or Spirit 🕳

… but what are those experiences teaching us?

It takes conscious effort, and courage to see the truth of reality in an objective way, without getting lost in the stories we tell ourselves.

That’s why our healing matters ✨️

I take photos at the same time from different angles like that, as a visual reminder – that we can be looking at the same thing, but be seeing something different – because it depends on our point of view, and what we choose to focus on.

Truth is, I am ALL those POV …

✨️Unflattering angle – captures my uglier side that I don’t want others to see.

✨️Realistic angle – captures my honest side that I’m most comfortable with.

✨️Complimentary angle – captures my better side that I prefer others see.

Whenever I’m shifting my point of view from a negative frame of mind, to a higher perspective it creates a shift in my energy that makes me think and feel differently.

… but its a process of change 🌀

When you have an itch … then scratch it.

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YES, I am being immature, but sometimes life can feel too serious, and we benefit from lighting the fuck up.

Statistically, there’s been a significant shift over the last two decades – with more unpartnered people in the world. In my humble opinion, the dating apps have contributed because the design is flawed. More option creates a casual approach to what we refer to as ‘the dating game,’ disrubpting the potential for stability, and exposing more situationships than creating successful matches for long term relationship.

… but that’s a blog for another time.

Women adjust to living alone, and we can be innovative and creative. Most of us have family and friends to fullfill our emotional needs, and some of us have a variety of toys to satisfy our sexual needs. More women are embracing and exploring their sexuality, regardess of their relationship status, but I may have reached another stage of my life.

… or perhaps it’s the men – oh – pause 🤣

Because the tools I use most to scratch an itch, and relieve tension these days have changed form, but lets be honest, it’s just another version of cock n’ balls.

Yup, it tickles my funny bone, but the spaghetti spoon, and balls are amazing tools that serve more than their intended or recommended purpose.

When my feet are in need of a foot rub, I roll my feet over the spiky ball on the floor. It feels fucking fabulous, and it also helps to relieve the plantar fasciitis I get after walking /standing too long.

When I need a massage, I push against the tennis ball on a wall. Like a bear scratching on a tree, it’s a great way to work out the knots and tension.

When my back is itching and I can’t reach it, I use the spaghetti scoop to scratch it. Gotta laugh because I notice the spag scoop even as the eye.

On a serious note, I do enjoy the peace of my solitudinal bliss because I’ve created a beautiful home, and living a wonderful life, but I still feel lonely at times, and I yearn for romance and intimacy, but I’m just not ready. I feel pleasure from so many other things, and life fullfills me, but I don’t judge myself for feeling how I feel.

Whenever those sexual urges do begin to flow, and I’m feeling lonesome, telling myself that I want or need to be in a relationship, I reach for other tools, and the feeling usually passes 🤣

Solstice blessings …

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Winter Solstice (21st June) is the shortest day of the year. Darkness is at it’s peak, and a natural response is to be feeling the pull IN – to rest and reflect, but here in the southern hemisphere our winter days are more like an English spring time, so it can feel a little disorienting for those of us with a strong connection to the motherland.

Less sunshine can trigger symptoms of depression, but the darkness has purpose, and what that means for us will depend upon the stories we are telling ourselves. For me, I have an appreciation for the bright blessed day, and the dark sacred night because they both have an important purpose.

This time of year is celebrated as a turning point, as we gradually gain more light. An energetic reset, cosmic alignment, renewal of the human spirit, and a time to honour the sacred darkness and our shadow self.

As a witchy woo woo woman – shadow work is an essential part of my practice. If we don’t confront our own biases, fears, and subconscious desires, then our conscious intention will clash with unresolved feelings, which can then have an influence on an outcome.

Present tense intention is the core of our craft – the tools we use and the rituals we perform are just physical anchors to focus energy. Clear and conscious intention is how we aim that focus.

Giving direction to the magick 🏹✨️

This Solstice I’m not yearning to reconnect with a part of me that feels missing because I am complete.

I’m focused on my creative craft ✨️✍️

As I acknowledge the process of letting go during Autumn, releasing what no longer serves my highest good, I’m grounding my energy during Winter. To strengthen the roots for my growth, and nurturing the seeds of my intention.

That I’m planting for Spring 🌱

Aligning with the rhythms of Nature makes me feel a deeper connection to the Divine Mother, and Sacred Feminine energy invites me IN – to collective wounds we bury, and truths we don’t want to see because as women, we intuitively know – we heal by feeling it.

An awareness of the Sacred Feminine also makes me conscious of the Divine Father, and Sacred Masculine energy brings me into full presence. Holding the vision of my purpose with a fierce protection, so I can live my best life.

✨️To CONNECT with my higher self
✨️To BALANCE energies within me
✨️To ALIGN with my soul purpose
✨️To be a fuller expression of SELF
✨️To share my healing journey

Integrating ALL of who we are isn’t about becoming better, fixed or perfect. It’s living our authentic truth, more present in the moments. Responding to our challenges, instead of reacting from the lens of disconnection, polarities of imbalance, masks of social conditioning, and the splits of our personality.

Some say we are the universe becoming aware of itself, because some believe (my SELF incuded) that human consciousness isn’t just a biological experience – it’s another language we are learning to understand and speak.

Energy 🌀 Vibration ✨️ Frequency 〰️

A shift in perspective that challenges how we experience EVERYTHING, including our understanding of relationship. There’s always a reason for falling in love, and the energetic resonance with another soul teaches us important lessons. Love is never wrong, but the expression of love can go wrong.

As women we often over ride our truth, doubt our intuitive guidance, ignore bodily signals, disregard symptoms, compromise our self, and neglect our needs. Betraying and abandoning ourselves to serve other peoples needs, or to maintain their sense of comfort, especially in the name of love.

How often do we …

✨️Say YES when we want to say NO

✨️Bite our tongues to keep the peace

✨️Avoid conflict to maintain harmony

✨️Stay where it doesn’t feel good for us

✨️Fail to maintain our boundaries

✨️Be who others want or need us to be

It isn’t about who is right or wrong because failing is part of the learning experience. It isn’t about fixing broken people because we are all flawed – but we DO need to acknowledge why the Divine Feminine doesn’t feel safe, so we can let go of the patterns that hurt us.

Regardless of our gender, the Divine Masculine needs to take accountability for his choices, and this will have a profound influence on our intimate relationships, and create change in a governing patriarchal system.

Honour the darkness (unconscious) within you as a sacred space for inner transformation, and nurture the inner flame of radical self-love and compassion within your own heart. Each passing day will bring in more light (awareness) that will renew your spirit and illuminate the path.

Solstice blessings and so mote it BE ✨️

New Moon in Gemini

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According to the star gazers Gemini rules communication in all its forms: our ideas, writing, learning, conversations, networking, social media, marketing, and the stories we are telling ourselves.

Every New Moons call us IN to reflect, and this one’s asking us – do we keep repeating the same conversations (or) are we creating change?

For me, its about making different choices because in the past I’ve exhausted myself trying to understand others, wanting to be understood has felt frustrating as fuck, and being understanding has drained the energy from me that I need to create.

I acknowledge – a need for validation is the root cause of our people pleasing behaviours, and although I’ve often challenged this about my self, I’m still guilty of tolerating bad manners, disrespect and shitty attitudes because I can understand why people are who they are, but I’m learning how to be discerning in my choices

DISCERNMENT is having insight – to see things clearly, and perceive the truth without getting lost in the confusion of conflicting realities, to read the true character, and motives of people so we can make better choices, and not abandon ourselves.

As they say … when someone shows you who they are, then BELIEVE them.

In astrology, New Moons are associated with fresh starts, and taking those first tentative steps towards our future goals, so NOW is a powerful time to ask ourselves.

✨ What do I want to create next?

✨ What new chapter is beginning?

✨ What ideas deserve more attention?

If you are wishing something was different, if you want something to change, and if you are ready for a new experience, then use this energy to consciously choose a story that supports where you want to go, instead of where you’ve been, or where you are – by noticing the stories you are telling yourself about relationships, love, family, work, money, life and the future.

Gemini reminds us that our words become thoughts – thoughts become beliefs – beliefs become actions – and our actions create the experiences we are choosing to have.

This New Moon is asking us …

Who were you before the expectations, responsibilities, fears, and distractions pulled you away from your self?

✨️What truth are you afraid to speak?

✨️What part of you wants to be heard?

For me, its about sitting with the discomfort of not always feeling understood, because I can’t control how others perceive my truth.

Every New Moon offers us an opportunity to plant the seeds of our intentions, that are rooted in authenticity, rather than a sense of duty and/or obligation, but to stand more confidently in our truth, we need to have the courage to say NO !!!

Saying NO won’t always please others …

Therefore, if we want to be authentic, then we must be prepared to be disliked, and if we want to enforce our boundaries, then we must be prepared to be seen as being unfriendly and/or unloving, but that doesn’t mean it’s true. It’s just become someone else’s version of the truth.

A sacred NO is a powerful, and an intentional boundary that protects our energy, honours our truth, respects our values, and maintains our health and well being, It’s a deliberate refusal that then allows us to say YES to all the wonderful experiences that we truly want to experience in this precious life time.

This is a shift that creates (+) change 🌀✨️

The comfort zone …

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I like this image of the comfort zone by Tom Senninger because it’s a great visual of the process. We ALL feel comfortable sitting on our arse at home, especially in a conflicting world, but “All growth starts at the end of your comfort zone” (Tony Robbins)

For (9) years I lived out of the comfort zone. Like a gypsy, I moved back and forth between the UK and Australia, drifting in and out of other peoples lives, unsure where I belonged.

I learned so much from those experiences, but shifting from drifting (seeking experiences to learn and grow from) to settling back into the comfort zone (embracing stillness) was equally challenging because I’m not the same woman I once was.

  • Routine felt boring
  • Structure felt restrictive
  • Staying still felt stifling
  • Stability felt stagnant
  • Settling felt wrong

Ironically, but not surprisingly the comfort zone didn’t feel comfortable anymore. I was afraid of stepping back into an old version of myself that no longer fit, and I experienced what psychology defines as “a transitional identity crisis.” A realization that helped me to understand some of my struggles.

During those (9) years out of the comfort zone I experienced detachment from those I love most, I lost my parents, and a soul sister to cancer. I fell in love with men who couldn’t fully meet me, and I let them all go, but I never lost love.

Grief and loss challenged me to be in a constant state of transition.

What did I learn?

Living out of the comfort zone builds resilience, but adaptation isn’t always a (+) experience. Adjusting our behaviours, thoughts, and emotions in response to new, uncertain, or unfamiliar situations is essential to thrive, but some environments will trigger us to compromise ourselves, and we will learn and grow the most from those inner conflicts.

There’s a story to be told about why I lost my SELF in someone else’s story, and how I began to reclaim the narrative, but it’s taken time to reconnect with MY truth, regain a sense of balance, realign with my personal values, integrate the lessons, rebuild my own life, redesign the comfort zone, and reframe the return into comfort, as deepening my roots.

Feeling more settled has provided me with a safe space to notice with greater clarity – which habits are truly comforting, what hinders my growth, and when my choices have been self destructive – acknowledging how many times I compromised my needs to prioritize another.

As women, so many of us are guilty of this ☝️🤨

The discomfort of that truth has shifted something within me. My head and heart are finally in alignment, and my soul no longer feels restless … because I am home ✨️

My kinda spiritual practice …

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There’s so much about living a gypsy life I miss, and being infront of an open fire in Nature is one of them. Building a fire outside makes me feel connected to my ancestoral roots, it ignites my inner flame, uplifts my spirit, and brings immense joy to my heart.

We live in a world of convenience, and its much quicker and easier to plug a kettle in, but when I use electricity I miss an opportunity to connect in this way. So, this is one way I am consciously slowing down this Winter.

A simple act of boiling water in my copper kettle, over an open flame, on a cold morning, while the sun rises is priceless, and it reminds me that happiness is something we create.

… but it’s natural to feel unhappy in loss.

To be honest, sometimes I feel frustrated with myself, but healing doesn’t have a timeline, and it’s a deeply personal experience. I’ve been rebuilding my life, re-engaging with systems that challenge me, reconnecting with MY truth, rebalancing conflicting energy, healing a disregulated nervous system, and realigning with my spiritual self.

It takes patience … and lotsa practice.

Healing an abandonment wound isn’t about finding someone who stays … it’s learning how NOT to abandon ourselves in relationship with another.

Healing a beytral wound isn’t about being with someone who won’t betray our trust … it’s learning how to trust our own intuitive guidance.

Maintaining healthier boundaries has been essential to my healing process, so I can fully appreciate if or when others need to detach and disconnect themselves from me. I still feel the LOVE ❤️ but someone’s presence in our lives is determined by the choices we make, and how we make each other feel.

As I continue to learn from the past, feel more present in the moments, and imagine a better future, the collision of realities feel less confusing, because I understand the purpose of each timeline, and can give it meaning.

That’s how I grow from my experiences.

Oh, I still get the wobbles whenever I’m triggerd because I can still be a beautiful hot mess, but I am no less divine in my human expression of my true SELF.

I feel supported and guided by an energy with many names (Universe, Nature, God/Goddess, spirit, soul, Divine Mother and Father, Sacred feminine and masculine). An energy I consciously choose to connect with because it serves my highest good, and therefore the GREATER GOOD OF ALL.

Truth is … life will ALWAYS have its challenges, but with or without a significant other, my life continues to be a wonderful adventure ✌️😍

Once in a Blue Moon …

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Blue Moon 31st May 2026

Full moons have an illuminating energy on the psyche, and this months Blue Moon is illuminating what’s been rippling beneath the surface for too long. To shine a light on how we keep going around in circles, or telling ourselves the same thing … but nothing actually ever really changes.

“Information isn’t transformation“

This months cycle is slightly out of rhythm because there are (2) Full Moons this month, and they call it a Blue Moon because they don’t occur often. Rare moons alter the rhythm, and when the rhythm changes, some of us see it as an energetic portal. According to star gazers, the Sagittarius Blue Moon isn’t asking us who we were, but if we are ready to BE who we were always meant to become, by bringing our attention to what breaks the pattern.

My Reflection …

During the previous Full Moon in Scorpio I was shown – what continues to return still holds power, and the returning Full Moon in Sagittarius is telling me – growth can’t happen if I remain emotionally attached to an old version of myself – under this Blue Moon, I’m detaching from emotional cycles, releasing chapters that have already ended, and stepping out of timelines I’ve outgrown.

“Not everything is meant to continue just because it’s existed for a long time.”

“Scorpio asked us to face what we’ve been avoiding – Sagittarius is asking us to imagine what’s on the other side of it – because we can’t believe in our future while clinging to the past, and we can’t let go of the past without walking towards something – We are being asked to hold the letting go (grief) and believing (hope) at the same time, trusting they are part of the same answer.

This Full Moon is asking us – are certain people, patterns, responsibilities, environments, or emotional dynamics nourishing your soul? Do you feel more protective of your peace, more aware of energetic depletion, less willing to over extend yourself emotionally, more sensitive to imbalance, and more conscious of how your energy expands and contracts?

The soul is recognising what can and can’t continue forward, and this Blue Moon is helping us to see why we struggle to LET GO

  • What is challenging you to change?
  • How are you deceiving your SELF?
  • What story has rooted deep in the psyche?
  • What point of view is distorting the truth?
  • What are you seeing with more clarity?
  • What no longer serves your highest good?
  • What cycle feels completed?
  • What have you already outgrown?
  • Where are you feeling a sense of release?

Don’t overthink those questions because it’s not about forcing this energy, it’s about allowing the truth to be revealed.

As vibrational beings – becoming conscious of our energy is how we begin to shift it, and Universe is responding to us 💫

The stories may differ, but our personal experiences are connected to a collective narrative because Pluto entered Aquarius November 2024.

According to star gazers Pluto went retrograde May 6th, and it’s considered to be the beginning of a (5) month IN-ward journey, that’s said to be a corrective point in a collective shift. What has been projected OUT into the world will begin to circle back IN to the psyche, to be processed within, so it can begin to work through the collective field, systems, networks, ideologies, digital spaces, and communities we attach to, and the identities we build inside of them.

Every mind must make its choice between truth and repose. It cannot have both.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

BE-coming conscious of the truth can feel destabilizing, but we can’t think our way out of an energetic shift.

  • Notice where your attention flows
  • Notice where you react automatically
  • Notice how others are responding to you

Pluto in Aquarius is an ongoing conversation with the divine masculine, and regardless of our gender, we ALL feel this energy within us. If old heart break, trauma, rejection, guilt, anxieties, regret, abandonment fears or avoided truths are being triggered – it’s exposing structures built on ego, fear, manipulation, and emotional dishonesty because they don’t serve the souls evolution.

Pluto is shining a light on the motives behind projections, to stop us from activating old narratives, so we may be reflecting on our roles, and the dynamics in different systems (from micro to macro). It may feel like we are losing parts of ourselves as old identities begin to fall away, but however challenging – TRUST THE PROCESS – because the only way OUT is through.

The past hasn’t changed, but our relationship to it, and the meaning we give it has.

By the time this Blue Moon reaches fullness – certain truths may feel undeniable, there may be a sense that something is shifting within us, and we’ll be asking ourselves …

  • What strengthens my spirit?
  • What makes me feel more alive?
  • What drains my life force?
  • What truths keep resurfacing?
  • What future is calling me forward?

“The current energies may be bringing emotional realizations, nervous system sensitivity, vivid dreams, deeper reflection, relationship clarity, and the growing awareness that certain environments, emotional patterns, conversations, habits, or responsibilities may be affecting us more than before.

If you are realising how you’ve changed, then reconnect with what nourishes you emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. Emotional honesty, healthier boundaries, meaningful connection, grounding routines, nervous system care, and inner alignment feels more important to us because we are making space to receive what we are ready to manifest into reality.

We are at a crossroad between timelines.

✨️The road that’s ending

✨️The road we are standing upon

✨️The road waiting beyond the horizon.

A Blue Moon in Sagittarius is ruled by Jupiter, the planet of destiny, wisdom, and expansion. It carries the energy of the Archer, the one who must choose a direction before releasing the arrow.

It’s not a a wish, and it’s not hope.

It’s a declaration

Under the Blue Moon we are informing the Universe of our decision, and making a conscious choice.

Claiming our DREAM

Grounding the vision

Releasing the arrow 🏹 ✨️