Can we change our grieving process ?

loss

I read this and reflected upon my own experiences of loss and thought to myself

The purpose of a loss IS to loose part of ourselves because the experience is supposed to CHANGE us

The purpose of a loss IS to loose our sense of security, trust and hope for the future because the experience is supposed to CHANGE our future ?

I believe …

That we cannot be OPEN to love and not also be OPEN to the experience of loss because they are both part of the same spectrum

Yet our experiences of both love and loss can cause us so many problems

So … WHY do we tell ourselves that love and loss is either good or bad ?

Its usually our past experiences that will influence how we think about it

Experience telling us to either expect a positive or a negative experience

But …

Experience also tells us that love isn’t always a good experience

Like falling in love with someone who betrays our hearts or experiencing emotional/physical unwellness as we grieve the loss of a loved one

Experience also tells us that loss isn’t always a bad experience

Like dumping the prick who betrayed us or experiencing emotional/physical wellness when we end a toxic relationship

Isn’t it then fair to say that its OUR thoughts and feelings about the experience of love and loss that makes all the difference to HOW we experience it ?

But …

WHAT IF … we made a conscious choice to CHANGE how we think about loss ?

WHAT IF … the more we learn how to accept and embrace our own shadow, the more we learn to understand and appreciate the darkness in others ?

WHAT IF … the more we understand that energy never dies, the more we accept that death isn’t really the end, only a new beginning ?

WHAT IF … we believe that love and loss was neither a positive nor a negative experience ?

WHAT IF …we believe that both experiences of love and loss was just an experience that brings us opportunities to learn and grow ?

Neither good nor bad ☺

WHAT IF … we accepted BOTH love and loss to flow more freely without attaching any negative or positive thoughts to the experience ?

Would we flow with whatever comes with a little more ease ?

Would we be more willing to OPEN our hearts if we no longer feared the hurt ?

Would we be more OPEN to feel the hurt if we no longer feared the pain ?

Would we learn to appreciate how the experience of loss changes and opens us ?

Is it possible that this change in our thinking could improve our grieving experience ?

Is it possible that this change in our thinking could reduce our experiences of mental health issues and substance abuse ?

Is it possible that this change in our thinking could improve our health and happiness ?

I believe so

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