The “Strong Woman”

I have tried to be her and I’m surrounded by many woman like her

BUT I REFUSE TO BE THIS WOMAN !!!

My resistance to accept her continues to create tension within me that I need to share. Because not only have I tried to be the “Strong Woman” but I notice how most people want me to be her. Repeatedly I have heard the phrase “Be Strong” and I’ll be honest with you, it started to really fucking piss me off.

People with the best of intentions are saying stuff that’s triggering this kind of woman into her feelings. For me it happened like this …

“Be strong for your Mam” as my sisters and I watched her dying before our very eyes. “Be strong for your Dad” when she died. Words that made my hurting heart scream !!!

After a conversation with a friend yesterday, I recognized how the anger rising in my belly was triggering my power centre. An inner conflict that was my catharsis for change.

We NEED tension and conflict for CHANGE to occur in our lives, so embrace it, its a gift ❤

Truth is, the strong woman isn’t being authentic because she’s faking it.

She’s faking the smiles for YOUR benefit. She’s surpressing her truth to make YOU feel more comfortable. She isn’t open to fully feel the flow of life because although she may be true to herself, she’s not bringing that truth to the interactions she has with others.

I REFUSE TO BE THIS WOMAN !!!

Truth is, I am NOT strong during those times when life is breaking my heart open.

I AM softened, sensitive and vulnerable

My strength comes from enduring the pain that demands to be felt. So please don’t tell me to be strong when I need to FEEL emotion as it arises because that hinders my healing.

I ASPIRE TO BE A WOMAN OF STRENGTH !!!

Because I strongly believe that our ability to sit with our vulnerabilities and share our uglier truths, is how we have more integrity and stay OPEN to living a more authentic life.

Keep it REAL and HEAL ❤