My abortion contemplations


There’s always been many a heated debate about abortion, but America’s proposal of an anti-abortion law has social media in a frenzy.

As a woman and as a Mother with a Daughter, it’s a topic that concerns me. And having experienced an abortion at 18 years old, and having suffered the emotional consequences, its a conversation that matters to me.

Having worked through my own feelings of regret, guilt, shame, grief and loss, I don’t choose a side. As a woman of contradiction I choose life, but also respect a woman’s right to CHOOSE whatever is right for her.

I ask YOU …

Are YOU pro LIFE (or) pro CHOICE ?
If you choose LIFE, then ask yourself …
Are YOU pro PEACE (or) pro WAR ?
If you choose PEACE, then ask yourself …
Are YOU at peace with your choice ?

Choosing to have an abortion is NOT a simple YES or NO answer. I can guarantee you that most women agonize over the decision to abort a pregnancy. Yes, there are those who mindlessly use abortion as a form of birth control, which is why expanding upon sexual education is so VERY important. I’ve said it before and I’ll keep saying it again and again.

It’s time to dump the SHAME around SEX

Instead of judging one another, let’s talk more openly about WHY men and women are having sex in the first place. Let’s talk more honestly about how we want to experience intimacy. Let’s talk more openly about how masturbation improves our relationship with ourselves. And for fucksakes let’s be willing to talk more honestly with each other about what our wants and needs are in relationship.

Is it such a radical theory, to suggest that as more men and women become more mindful of themselves and each other, then less people would need to be in the position of chosing abortion ?

Truth is, if a woman decides that an abortion is right for her, then she’ll do whatever it takes to DO it, so making it illegal puts her in danger.

In my opinion taking away a woman’s choice is taking a monumental step back into oppression.

YES, women are STILL being oppressed

Women are STILL being raped
Women are STILL being abused
Women are STILL being manipulated
Women are STILL being disrespected

This is not fiction, but TRUTHS !!!

Just because it’s not happening in YOUR world doesn’t mean it’s not happening in anothers. As Western women we have more rights and privileges.

But lets not forget why …

If it wasn’t for the battles fought in the past, then we wouldn’t have the “sense” of freedom we have today. However, our battles continue because we are STILL being manipulated by men in power with influence. Heck, in truth we’re being manipulated in relationships with wounded men. And as wounded women, we are giving our power away in the name of love.

I’m not interested in debating who is right or wrong because everyone’s experience is valid. In truth, if we dive deep enough into ourselves, we will find that we are ALL healing from historical and cultural patriarchal influences.

But let it be known …

That NO man has the right to guide our mind, body or worth. NO man has the right to tell us what’s right for us and NO man has the fucking right to abuse and disrespect our bodies …. EVER !!!

As men and women …

We ALL need to take full responsibility for our choices. We ALL benefit from being open minded enough to challenge our belief systems, change our thinking and expand upon our consciousness. And we ALL experience more love when we open up our hearts to fully FEEL life.

This is my understanding of HEALING ❤

So, I ask again …

Are YOU pro LIFE (or) pro CHOICE ?

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s