As a reformed People Pleaser, there was a time when I would suffer all kinds of emotional anguish when I thought someone didn’t like me

Oh how times have changed

How did it change ?

I started to challenge those thoughts and ask myself …

What am I doing that may cause this person to not like me ?

Why am I doing it ?

How is what I’m doing unpleasing them ?

Why do I feel responsible for pleasing them ?

The answers are insightful ☺

Now, I notice those things that I dont like in others more and more

I observe how its reflective in me, by asking myself …

What are they doing that I dont like ?

Why does it trigger me ?

How does it make me feel ?

When am I doing this in my own life ?

What we think and how we feel will determine what kind of people we attract and what kind of experience we will have

Those experiences are neither right nor wrong

Those experiences are neither good nor bad

They are experiences that WE choose for our own learning and growth

That IS our journey

When we begin to tire of something or someone, it either holds no more value or they have no more purpose in our lives

We no longer need it

We have healed that part of ourselves and will hopefully no longer attract it

I believe more and more that we are ALL mirror images of each other

I believe more and more that people will flow in and out of our lives depending upon what we choose, what we need, what we tolerate and what we accept

I believe more and more that together we are ONE

Mindful interaction ❤

Why do you believe in magic ?

Why do you believe that you’ve been in other times, different to this world ?

Logic and reasoning says …

 ” Because your mother filled your head with fairy tales and fantasy worlds “

But another voice whispers …

” What if those stories helped to bring you home ? ”

” What if your mothers role was to remind you ? ”

Logic and reasoning says …

” Your mind will think up all kindsa rubbish that isn’t real “

” That is why we dont believe everything we think “

But another voice whispers …

” What if nothing is real and everything is a fantasy that we live ? “

” What if the more conscious we become, the more realities we can create  ? “

Logic and reasoning says …

” You’re tripping and you’re not real “

But another voice whispers …

” Yet we are both here inside of her mind “

Its taken me 42 years to truly understand this

Yup, Im a late bloomer and at times a very slow learner

Yet, my soul whispers … “Darling, you’re right on track”

The road hasn’t always been an easy one

I’ve taken wrong turns, gone over speed bumps, hit dead ends, confronted crossroads, taken detours and been around and around those darn round abouts

Yet, my soul whispers … “Darling, this IS your journey”

Multiple broken hearts have woken me up from a deep sleep

But my heart is still restless

Yet, my soul whispers … “Darling, trust me”

The words … SHADOW and DARKNESS now hold new meaning and purpose

My hurts and fears are signposts

Guiding me towards blockages that are stopping the flow of energy

These blockages can be many things …

A memory, a thought, an emotion, a belief, a person or a place

From my own lived experience (e.g.. a loss)

A fear passed down from someone elses experience (e.g.. a loved one wanting to protect me from pain or suffering)

From the collective experience (social and cultural conditioning that shapes my collective consciousness)

Or perhaps from any one of my many past life experiences (which lies much deeper within my consciousness)

The deeper we dive into ourselves, the more we discover

My need to dive deeper into myself is a strong pull that even I don’t always understand. People often question and challenge my choices, which sometimes increases my feelings of doubt

Yet, my soul whispers … “Darling, the answers will come”

I certainly don’t have all the answers … and never will

I’m just moving through life trusting my heart and listening to the whispers

Because they bring new understandings that are changing my life

Mindful interaction ❤

The thing about self love is …

We dont always learn its true value from being loved well by others

Some of us learn to self love by attracting experiences that hurt us

To shed light on how we are depending on others for our happiness

Teaching us how to find a deeper sense of love

We are abandoned, rejected, used and abused

We endure heart ache and we cry ALOT !!!

We confront our fears and we freak the fuck out

Our worlds are shattered and our tender hearts are broken open … OFTEN

But … WHAT IF this is our greatest gift of love ?

My own hurts and fears continue to guide me deeper and deeper inside of myself

To where I truly FEEL who I am

Towards my spirit

To a place where I am more than my thoughts and my emotions

Towards my energy

To a place where I feel supported, held and loved …

by something much bigger than myself

In the past I never understood the purpose of pain and suffering

In the past I couldn’t appreciate loss as much as I did love

Today … I am a very different woman

I no longer fear the fall

I welcome it

Because as our illusions are shattered one by one

Our reality changes

We begin to co-create the life we imagine with Universe

We start tapping into our magic and we become stronger

Our strength coming from our ability to fall apart and rebuild ourselves …

over and over and over again

We become fierce in our ability to feel and relentless in our need to love.

We are the warriors of love ❤

I’m here to live and love my own life out loud ❤

Like YOU …
I’m here to make my own choices
I’m here to learn my own lessons
I’m here to follow my own path
I’m here to create my own reality
I’m here to change my own direction

If our experiences are different, then we are living our own lives, learning our own lessons and walking our own paths

I’m not here to be perfect
I’m not here to please you
I’m not here to impress you
I’m not here to convince you
I’m not here to change you

I’m here to live and love my own life out loud ❤

Like YOU …
I’m here to follow my own passions
I’m here to find my own purpose
I’m here to give my own life meaning
I’m here to create my own happiness
I’m here to live my own dreams

If our experiences are different, then we are following our own passions, have found our own purpose and are creating our own dreams

I’m not here to live up to your expectations
I’m not here to follow the crowd
I’m not here to live life small
I’m not here to believe everything you believe
I’m not here to see everything you see
I’m not here to feel everything you feel

I’m here to live and love my own life out loud ❤

Like YOU …
I’m here to be real about who I am
I’m here to embrace all of who I am
I’m here to embody all aspects of myself
I’m here to be open about who I am
I’m here to love all of who I am
I’m here to love all of who YOU are

So … even in our differences we are the same

Mindful interaction ❤

I used to think I was an empath because of my highly sensitive nature. I now know myself better. I’m not an empath … I’m just learning how to function in the world with an open heart 💔

Empathy is seeing, listening and feeling another … but we cannot truly embody this way of being until we first see, listen and feel our own experiences.

As a child I was in my head far more than I was in my heart. As a teen I was introduced to the kind of change that shakes your world upside down. Literally, by emigrating from the UK to Australia. As a young woman I was thrown out of my mind and into my heart by multiple heart breaks. And now, as a maturing woman I’m learning how to balance my head and heart … alone

When the scales tip and I feel overwhelmed, I feel the most vulnerable. My emotional triggers are more exposed and I become more reactive and less responsive. My primal urges are activated and I can fall back into old habits. My thoughts become scattered and unfocused. My emotions intensify and flow rapidly into each other. It kinda feels like I’m drowning on the inside and like a tap, my heart wants to shut off the feelings because she becomes too uncomfortable in her vulnerability.

But a whisper tells me that I must stay open and FEEL it, however much it may hurt, confuse and unsettle me. I’m learning to listen to those whispers because they seem to know more than I do. I’m learning to trust my inner voice.

But during those times of overwhelming change and increased stress, I find it harder to be around people. I need those around me who understand my messy mind and hurting heart. Those who dont challenge or question my experience. Those who are willing to listen to my irrational thoughts and allow me to ramble. Those who hold space for the flood of emotions, allowing them to flow without restriction. Those who dont fear the darkness of the unknown. Those who let me BE whatever the fuck I am in that moment. Those I trust. Those who celebrate and support my ever changing self.

When my head and heart are unbalanced I become more empathic because my emotional self is on higher alert. The world becomes too peopley and I struggle to stay open. If I fail to listen to myself and respond to my own needs, then one of two things can happen. Either I will shut down and function on auto pilot, becoming numb to myself and others. Or I will stay open and start freaking the fuck out as multiple energies hit me at once. And because I’m a work in progress l struggle to maintain a sense of self in the midst of chaos.

Now I know WHY the spiritual guru seeks out solitude

I seem to be calling TIME OUT and seeking solitude more and more lately.

My reality is in the midst of change and I can feel the dream coming to life

So … WHY am I experiencing so much more tension and conflict ?

In the space of a few days, Ive been confronted with multiple challenges …

I’m packing up house and closing another chapter, which stirs up a variety of emotions as I more consciously move through the process of change. I’m moving back in with my parents to save some serious dollars, which stirs up feelings of going backwards, rather than moving forwards. My daughter expressed feelings of abandonment, which stirs up feelings of guilt. My heart has reconnected with my uncomfortable truth, which stirs up feelings of fear. I was pushed past my limit within my professional role, which stirred up feelings of frustration. And to top it off my sexual libido has been stirred to its peak ….. and I’m abstaining

Arghhhh !!!!

The more I feel pulled back into previous mindsets, the more my changing reality is challenged. Although at times it may feel like I’m being pushed back into a corner, the Universe is actually blessing me with the experiences I need to become more focused about my direction.

Why do I believe this ?

Because I believe the Universe is always talking to us … we just need to pay more attention to what is being said

After pushing myself way past my limits, I decided to wave the white flag and call for a much needed TIME OUT so I can process and release all the crap and shit. I was feeling a little guilty about calling in sick and thinking about the uncomfortable stings of misinformed judgements, that I was already feeling by those who dont understand my journey.

Then I opened up my email and found this sitting in my inbox

Another reminder from Universe that I am moving in the right direction

Another reminder from Universe that I am following the right path

Another reminder from Universe that I am making the right choices

Mindful Interaction ❤

I wont bore you with the details, nor the variables of the stressful situation because its neither the time nor the place. However, I do feel the need to talk about the process.

Like you, I try my best to flow in those moments of stress. Sometimes I do it well, other times I could do it better. While feeling under pressure and overwhelmed with responsibility, we either do what needs to be done or we fall apart. How we react will depend upon what we think and how we feel about stressful situations. And it will also depend on what else we are juggling in our lives.

Some people thrive on challenges, while others are barely surviving in their comfort zones.

What is the purpose of stress ?

I believe such experiences are a challenge to test how positive, productive and loving we can be during physical and emotional pressure.

I believe such experiences either challenge or reinforce our choices and motivate our forward action.

I’m learning how to make better choices for myself, so that less stress is experienced because lets face it, its not good for us or the people around us.

But sometimes we find ourselves thrown into a situation where we haven’t been given much choice. So we either sink or swim. We either DO or die. We either stay or GO. We either fight or flow with it.

We either moan about how its impacted on our own life or we seek the message and the lesson that this experience brings.

The choice is still ours to make

During the stressful situation we usually dont have much time to reflect over what we are thinking or how we are feeling. We are generally focused on trying to maintain a positive attitude, getting the job done and responding to the needs of others. But the aftermath of a challenging or stressful experience is another experience in itself.

If we are consciously aware of ourselves then our mind will process the thoughts and our body will express itself with all those yummy “feelings”

We may feel disappointed, annoyed, frustrated or angry with those who we “believe” have placed us in this situation. Or we may feel disappointed, annoyed, frustrated or angry with ourselves for putting ourselves there in the first place.

Whatever we feel is valid … allow the emotion to flow without attaching to it

Whatever we think is valid … allow the thoughts to flow without attaching to it

This process is important, which is why debriefing is highly recommended. Depending on how stressful the situation has been, we will either offload to our friends and/or family, or seek out professional support.

When we dont observe our thoughts and express our feelings, then our not so great habits can kick in. We smoke more cigs, we drink more booze, we eat more junk, we complain more, we suppress more. Habits that we “think” soothe and comfort us, but in truth they are destroying us.

I believe that our stressful experiences are valuable opportunities of learning. We not only learn a lot about ourselves and others during such times, we can also reflect over how we can make better choices for ourselves and others.

I feel like staying in my jimmy jams, scoffing junk food and guzzling down some whiskey. I could quite easily replay the situation over and and over in my mind and continue to feel frustrated about something I have no power to change. But instead, I said YES to my sisters offer of an afternoon walk.

Mindful interaction ❤

Do YOU dare to manifest your dream ?

Here are some great questions that will help you to discover exactly what and why you want to manifest …

Are you clear about what it is you want to manifest ?
What do you truly desire ?
Does thinking about it excite you ?
Would this desire hurt anyone ?
How would it positively impact on your life and the life of others ?
Are you willing to do whatever it takes to manifest this dream into reality ?

Reflect over y0ur answers because what we think and how we feel influences our energetic vibration, which impacts on what we will ultimately attract into our lives. So, the more gratitude, joy and excitement we feel, the more Universe will respond to that vibration and our desires and dreams will begin to manifest much quicker.

But successful manifesting demands us to be in the heart space of FEELING ❤

Diving deeper into our thoughts and feelings helps us to clear out anything that may be blocking the flow of energy between us and Universe. Our blockages are any negative thought patterns, unexpressed emotions and/or limiting beliefs that prevent the natural flow of energy. These are our biggest obstacles that prevent us from successfully manifesting our desires, achieving our dreams, living a life of abundance and creating the life we imagine.

We also need to be clear about the feeling we want to experience.

For example …

A desire to manifest more money is generally related to the want to experience more freedom. A desire for a soul mate is generally related to the want to experience more love. A desire to manifest a dream job is generally related to the want to experience more creativity and inspiration. Experiencing more freedom, love, creativity and inspiration in our lives not only brings more joy to our own lives, it also empowers us to inspire others to do the same.

When we want to feed back good energy into our world, then our intentions are to serve the greater good. Universe likes this ALOT and will conspire to make your wildest dreams come true. However, we must be prepared to receive some unexpected twists and turns because sometimes we need to experience something important before we are able to fully receive our desire. So it may feel like we are going off track and going in the opposite direction to what we actually want to manifest.

Trusting this is challenging and we can start to loose heart, but we are being guided towards an experience that’s creating space and preparing us to receive what we asked for. At times it may feel like the Universe is testing us … it is

When we choose to manifest our desires, our path can often change direction, which impacts on our own life and the lives of others. Our choices may cause indirect harm if we are no longer satisfying the needs of someone else.

For example …

If we decide that we want to manifest our dream job, then we might need to further our education. Maybe our classes occur at the same time as our son goes to soccer practice, that we have always attended. So we disappoint our son by not being there to support him.

If we decide we want to manifest a more satisfying relationship, then we might need to let go of the relationship we are currently in. So we hurt our partner when we tell them that the relationship is over.

But we need to ask ourselves …

Do we feel responsible for the other persons experience, and if so … WHY ?

Each of us are here to follow our own path, learning and growing from our own experiences on our journey. If we feel responsible for someone elses life, are we truly following our own path or are we living out someone elses life, based on the expectations that others have of us ?

We can often convince ourselves that our needs come secondary to our family.

Our dreams and desires put aside until our son graduates high school, until our daughter successfully achieves her goals, until our children leave home, until our husband is in a better paying job, until we loose all of our excess weight, until we have this, until we find that, until we feel ready.

What the fuck are we waiting for ?

“Never allow waiting to become a habit.  Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening NOW”

The bigger our dream, the deeper our desire will be and the more effort will be required to successfully manifest it …

So, if YOU are willing to commit to creating the reality you imagine, then you are ready to start manifesting. If you’re keen to explore this further then click on the link below and enjoy creating your own kinda magic with the support and guidance of Sarah Prout ❤

Sarah Prout

And feel free to follow my progress as I manifest my own desires into reality

Stories are told by a story teller … but where do the stories come from ?

Our experiences, imaginations and insights are inspired by our senses: what we see, what we hear, what we touch, what we smell, what we taste, what we feel and what we intuitively know.

Sometimes information begins to surface from deep within our consciousness

Are they things that we’ve always known or is it new information coming in ?

Hmmmmmmm she ponders with a smile ☺

I think its fair to say that a story is based on an individual experience

Therefore … we are ALL story tellers

EVERY story that we have ever been told is based on someone elses perspective about an experience. Whether it be a historical document, a religious text, a scientific theory or a fairy tale.

Therefore, is it realistic to believe that someone elses truth is ours ?

” There is your truth and there is my truth. As for the universal truth, it doesn’t exist” (A. Tripathi)

I challenge you to STOP wasting time and energy arguing about why your truth is better than mine. I challenge you to focus on standing more comfortably in your own truth. I challenge you to fully embrace the truth of others and learn from their experience.

Imagine …

How many less wars would happen ?

How many less lives would be lost ?

How many less arguments would be started ?

How many less hearts would need to be broken open ?

I believe there is only a perception of truth: mine, yours and theirs. I believe this because my own truth is forever changing. But that’s the wonderful thing about stories. Each chapter is filled with a wonderful variety of different experiences.

Our life experience IS our story

Stories have been told since time immortal. They are told to entertain, educate, explain, inspire, intrigue, warn, inform and persuade.

The story teller is communicating an experience and sharing a message

A GREAT story teller connects with our heart and engages with our minds

A GREAT story has several important elements

The main character is seen as the “hero” who seeks to resolve an important tension or conflict. The moral of the story being how they and WE become “better” for navigating through it

So, I pose the questions …

Are you the hero of your own story ?

What tensions and conflicts are you navigating through ?

How are your experiences shaping your reality and creating your future ?

What stories do you believe ?

What stories are you sharing ?

Mindful interaction ❤

 

I’ll be completely honest with you, I didn’t really want to QUIT coffee and I’m not even trying to. It’s kinda gone away on its own accord, without having had any nasty withdrawals. The odd time I do have a cup of coffee, I experience some pretty severe heart palpitations that resemble an anxiety attack, so I’m obviously NOT enjoying it.

For months now, I’ve been opting for a morning cup of tea instead. And I’m never having coffee during the day or while on night duty these days.

As I poured myself this mornings cup of tea, I reflected over my changing habits and thought I’d share these thoughts with you. Because I’m experiencing some shifts within myself that’s starting to have a positive impact unconsciously.

But first lets talk about coffee … 

There’s plenty of research out there that informs us about both the positive and negative effects of caffeine.

According to research caffeine can cause insomnia, nervousness, restlessness and stomach upsets. Excessive amounts causing headaches, anxiety, agitation, irregular heartbeat and high blood pressure. Therefore, we increase our experiences of stress and tension and our risk of dis-ease and heart attack

That’s a whole lot of negatives isn’t it. Not to worry there are some positive effects too. It’s said to reduce the risk of Parkinson disease and Dementia. It also increases concentration and memory.

Hmmmmmmn

Well, the benefits are hardly surprising, considering the stimulating effects that caffeine has on our mind and body. But are they really beneficial for our health and well-being if we suffer the negative short and long term effects ?

Like many, I abused coffee because I relied upon it to uplift me. I “thought” it was the quickest and easiest way to switch my brain on and BE pro-active.

However, caffeine is an addictive drug so we soon become dependent on it. So it’s kinda a big deal that it’s just going away all on its own, without any effort.

Why ?
How ?

Most likely because I’m consciously focusing on any unhealthy habits I have. I’m becoming more aware of myself: beliefs, thoughts, emotions, energy, behavioural patterns etc. I’m actively participating in the opening and healing process. My intention is to create better health and well being and I’m focused on positive change and growth.

So, it hasn’t really just going away all on its own is it. I’m actually intently working on making better choices and creating positive change in my life. Changes that don’t happen overnight, but as an ongoing process its starting to have a positive impact on my mind and body.

The reason I’m sharing these thoughts with you, isn’t to brag about my successes. Its to give you something to reflect over, which will hopefully have a positive impact on your choices.

My coffee habit isn’t the only thing leaving my life with a little more ease and a little less tension. This is something that excites me. Because it reflects a shift in my consciousness. A breakthrough in my mind 💡

What am I doing differently ?

I’m self caring more
I’m meditating more
I’m opening up to my truth more
I’m connecting to myself more

Therefore, it seems that my body is naturally becoming more reactive and less tolerant to artificial stimulants.

Although I still have plenty of bad habits to change, its kinda nice to know that some changes are starting to happen a little more naturally ☺

I strongly believe that we ALL have the ability to create the life we imagine. A life filled with health, wealth and happiness. It all begins with a CHOICE to start making the necessary changes. Then we continue each day, striving to create better choices. All the while being gentle with ourselves when we fuck up, which we will because we’re ALL a work in progress

Mindful interaction ❤